Category: Love and Relationships

How Law of Attraction Really Works

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In the context of human experience, the law of attraction works on both conscious and subconscious level. What most human are consciously aware of is only about 3%. the rest is unconscious within which some is inherited, some may come from past life, some were picked up when you were very young or when you were in a highly receptive state so information, thoughts and beliefs went into your subconscious mind directly without being examined or filtered by your conscious mind.

There have been a lot of books, programs talking about changing your thoughts in order to change your life. However, you have have noticed that a lot of the times, it may not be as easy as you would like because thoughts come from your belief systems, most of which are unconscious to you until you start to do some serious inner-work. Thoughts that have heavy emotional charge attached to them are more challenging to change causing behavioral patterns difficult to change as well.

Diving a bit deeper, what makes changing your beliefs challenging is that you very likely picked them up when you were very young from your parents or caretakers. When you were young, you had no choice but absorb and pick up everything around you because your brain is not developed yet to perform complex tasks and weave out or reject negative thoughts, beliefs or projections. Then you go on living your life as if you aught to think, feel or behave in a certain way not knowing that there are actually unlimited ways of thinking, perceiving, behaving and living your life. Years of living your life unconsciously only consolidates your subconscious beliefs until when you see the limitation of living your life in a certain way and start to ask deeper questions such as “How can I improve my life experience?” “Why did I behave in a certain way?” “How can I change my response?” etc.

People who are awakened or are in the awakening process will be drawn to self-healing or self-development in order to understand themselves better, to heal parts of themselves that were not loved or damaged, to be their own best friend and biggest ally. When you start to put in the work in the right direction, the universe will respond and help you along by bringing you experiences and miracles better than you have expected. Everything starts with you. If you want to have better relationship with your spouse/partner, you need to take responsibility and start to examine your life first. Are you doing everything you can? Are you giving enough attention to your partener? Are you loving yourself in enough? Do you truly want to stay in the relationship or see a future with your spouse/partner? Whether the answer is yes or no, you need to be honest with yourself and make decisions and take actions that are aligned with your integrity, principles and values. When you do this consistently, either your spouse/partner will be inspired to change with you or the universe will clear the way and bring you someone who has similar intention and is a vibrational match for you.

As you keep unpeeling the onion, start to work on yourself on the soul level, start to say “YES” to your soul purpose and start to walk on your soul path consistently, the universe will bring you someone who can resonate with you on your soul level. Some people call it a soulmate relationship, but in essence, it means to be in a relationship with someone who shares great synergy and chemistry. You understand, love and care about each other deeply, help each other be the best you can and walk on your highest paths individually and collectively. However it doesn’t mean it will always be easy as life will always throw you challenges, but overall it will be a very strong, deep, meaningful, satisfying and often intense relationship.

Love and light,

Jane

How to create more abundance in your life!

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Abundance, Goals, Healing, Inner Child healing, law of attraction, love, Love and Relationships, Mental health, Passion, Personal Growth, Releasing negative and painful emotions, Self-healing, self-judgement, Self-love, UncategorizedLeave a comment

Sit in a quite place and breathe in through your nose and breathe out through your mouth until you feel relaxed. Imagine your feet sink deep into the earth and feel the solid nurturing earth energy supporting your whole being .

Place your hands on the centre of your chest and put your attention gently between your hands and the skin of your chest and say “I am my awareness.” If emotions come up, it’s okay. Be with them for a moment. You don’t have to do anything. Be aware of them is enough. They will heal, evolve and expand at the right time.

Now ask to connect with your spiritual guides, archangels, angels or your higher self whoever you connect with usually. If you are new to spirituality, and you are not sure who to connect with, you can always ask to connect with your higher self and your subconscious mind. Spirituality also starts with connecting with yourself first. The deeper you go, the higher you can reach.

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Now say in your mind or out loud:

God,  archangels, angels, seraphim, my higher self, my subconscious mind please help me be aware of my negative beliefs about money. Be aware of what thoughts, memories emotions, images, colors etc. show up. Allow your emotions to flow through you. Pay attention if you have any body sensations. Write them down. When you come back and re-read what you have written down, you’ll see how your thoughts, emotions are trying to communicate with you and you will have better connection with yourself and make better decisions in the future.

Now repeat the same exercise  for financial abundance

Pay attention to what financial abundance really feels to you. Be aware of what thoughts, emotions, images, colors etc show up. Pay attention to your body sensations. Do you feel expansion, warmth, or something else and write them down. 

Financial security and abundance is directly connected with your sense of self-worth. How do you see and feel about yourself? Do you really love, value and accept all part of yourself no matter what? You are the only person who can give you the love, the validation, the support you will ever need. The healing process starts and ends with healing your inner child. When you were a child, you depended on your parents. But when you are an adult, you really have to learn to be the divine mother and divine father that inner child needs. You have to be the force in your life to heal, love and appreciate your inner child in all aspects. When you heal your inner child, you really build a strong foundation in yourself, the 3D world and the spiritual world because you have integrated and harmonized all part of yourself and you will be more in peace with yourself. Your emotions will have higher frequency and your desires will manifest more quickly.

Find a quite place to sit and ask you higher self, your subconscious mind and your guides to show you your sense of self-worth. Pay attention to any thoughts, emotions, images, body sensations that come up and write them down. Pay attention to your breathing and become more aware of our own rhythm.

Now you have just released a lot of suppressed energy and emotions that no longer support you. In order for it to manifest more quickly in your life, you need to do come cleaning and organizing. (You can do this on the next day, if you feel you have a lot emotions to process or a lot of thought and feelings to write down in your journal.) Go through your place and clean out all the things that you no longer need. By doing this, you are generate room for new energy to come in and new events to manifest. You will also feel lighter and less dense. Everything is inter-connected. What you do in our physical world affects your mental, emotional and spiritual experience.

Now go back to your desk and write down as much as possible what you are grateful for. The attitude of gratitude will generate positive energy within you and in turn create positive experience in your life. In truth, you can only experience what you are and everything else is merely a mirror for you. I am sure you have heard of the saying “When you change the way you look at something, it changes.” It is because your out experience is a direct reflection of your inner experiences.

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Now that you have done the heard part, finally you can write your goals, your dreams and what you want to experience in your life. I put this part at last is because I want to you experience your heart first and know the difference between your heart and your mind. Your heart’s desires will always fulfill you. By staying in your heart, you will be less sensitive to other people’s judgment, opinions because love the strongest force and protection in the universe. You don’t need other people’s praise to do what you want to accomplish. You only need love to do what you want to do.

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Love and peace,

Jane Huang

 

 

Three Aspects to Permanent Growth in Life

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Awarenss, beliefs, Connecting with emotions, Healing, love, Love and Relationships, MInd Body and Spirit Connection, Personal Growth, Releasing negative and painful emotions, Self-healing, spiritualityLeave a comment

As you consciously choose to grow spiritually and set the intention be embrace the authentic “you”, you may start to notice your day-to-day choices may be based on a lot of fear based emotions. The activities you consciously or unconsciously engage with may have a lot of addictive nature such as checking emails, messages, reading magazines, tabloids news etc. in order to feel some level of excitement or fulfillment. This type of addition can really disconnect with your inner feelings, intuition and soul wisdom. Ask yourself, are you able to embrace solitude? Do you really treasure the time you spend with yourself? Do you allow yourself to feel and accept your true feelings and hold compassion for them or are you afraid of them and feel the need to run away from them, suppress them or distract yourself by busy doing something?Image result for spiritual growth The external life circumstances are really reflection of your inner world. If you dis-associate with your true feelings and desires internally, you will find it very difficult to stay authentic with the external world too. Before you can truly be vulnerable with yourself, accept yourself for you are right here, right now and love and respect yourself no matter what, you will always feel the need to modify yourself when you meet the outside world, because the way you judge yourself is the way you think the world will judge you.

There are three aspects to self-love which you really master that can tremendously improve the quality your inner and outer experiences.

1) Love:
Love is only thing that is real and is hold everything together. Fear is an illusion created by our ego. That’s why many spiritual teachers define fear as false expectations appearing real. To solve any problem in life, ask yourself “What choices that lead you closer to love and peace?” AImage result for true lovelso love cannot be defined. Everyone experience and express love in different ways. Love is not just a concept. It’s a force but it’s also a feeling. Love is gentle. Love is passionate. Love is creative. Love is courageous. Love heals. Love challenges. Love frees. Love always tell the truth. Spend some time alone and ask yourself, what makes your heart really sing even if nobody knows or sees? What are you naturally drawn to? What would you do if money is not the problem? What would you do if you know anything is possible? Close your eyes and let go all of your thoughts, emotions and preferences and allow the wisdom of your souls to show your true purposes, qualities and paths through gentle knowingness or flashes of insights. To some people, it may come as images or voices that are so distinguishable yet familiar because they resonate with your souls on multi-dimensional levels.

2. Truth

In a world that almost everybody concerns with their outer appearance more than their inner qualities, it can be difficult to see the importance of being truthful and honest. Image result for spiritual truth
However, as you evolve spiritually and desire more love and meaning in your life, you start to see that being completely honest with yourself and accepting life for what it is and trusting the workings of the universe is the only way to stay sane and grounded in this ever-changing world where illusions and duality are the true obstacles that we need to overcome. Spend some time alone and examine exactly how you feel about what you are going through in life. If judgments and self-critical thoughts surface, let go of the thoughts and pay attention to the emotions, feeling or energy beneath them. Breathe deeply in your diaphragm and as you breathe out, set the intention to align your heart, mind and spirit to be one with the ultimate truth and be a channel to allow divine energy wash away all the false beliefs, limiting emotions and feeling etc. that can be let go at this moment. As you keep practice this for at least thirty days, you will start to notice more positivity, clarity, confidence and peace in you

3) Vulnerability/ Humility

Vulnerability and humility go hand in hand. Both are essential to help you open your heart and mind to learn new aspects about yourself, life, Image result for spiritual vulnerabilitylaws of the universe and be flexible and be willing to change. Having the vulnerability to face your fears and the humility to honestly examine your life are essential for deep rooted growth and changes. Vulnerability and humility are also vital in the process of letting go of your personal judgments and releasing the resistance to your truth paths. When you are flow of life, your desires, intentions and longings can be manifested in miraculous ways which take you to wonderful places you have never been to both internally and externally. Vulnerability and humility are both prerequisites and enhancer for experiencing more true love in your life. As you allow yourself to be vulnerable and humble, you consciously accept the enteral oneness that connects all people, things, and experiences. As you consciously integrate this truth and energy into your daily life, you will start to experience more harmony, peace, joy, love and gratitude. You will feel less need for other people’s acceptance and be connected with your true power.

Love and light

Jane Huang

It Gets Better Series

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Awarenss, beliefs, Connecting with emotions, love, Love and Relationships, Personal Growth, Self-healing, spiritualityLeave a comment

LOVE HEALS AND FLURISH EVERYTHING. There are a lot of negative things and events happening in the world right now, but I am glad that It Gets Better Project has taken off so well and has had amazingly positive impact on not only people who are in the coming out processes, but also those who are in career transitions having to come out of comfort zones, taking actions to follow true callings to bring more love to the world no matter what others say, standing up against unloving cultural traditions even in front of dangerous and life-threatening punishment and questioning political authorities and revealing what is really going in the world on a large scale. Respect, applause and reverence go to the brave, the honest, the strong and those who sacrifice for others.

Love and light

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

How To Deal With Abusive Relationships

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn anger, Awarenss, beliefs, Connecting with emotions, fear, grief, love, Love and Relationships, Personal Growth, Releasing negative and painful emotions, Self-healing, Self-love, spiritualityLeave a comment

woman huggingThe first step to deal with abusive relationships is admitting you are actually in one. Most people tend to deny they are in one because all relationships take time and effort to create and maintain and we don’t want to believe that the time and evergy that we have spent are going to waste or against us.

Then something might happen to make you alert that the person you are in relatioship (does not have to be romantic relationships, it can be parents, relatives, co-workers, social encounters etc) with actually tend to be a taker, a manipulator, or a user. When situations like this happens, some people critisize the other person for being inconsiderate and be very angry at them while others tend to tell themselves that everything will be fine and wishfully think the other person will change for them. Very few people really look at the the cause of the issue and how the relationship was formed in the first place. However, this is an important step to deal with all relationship problems. We have to really understand what situation we are in and what the next step to take that will bring the best solutions for everyone involved.

Most emotional and physical abusive relationships form when both parties have insecurities, looking for another person to help deal with our problems (or to complete us). Then, we have to ask ourselves, what do we want to experience from this particular relationship? Are we trying to get something from it in order to ease our fears, anxieties or insecurities. Relationships based on co-dependnece will always meet challenges down the road and it will get harder and harder as time goes by because both parties refuse to learn and baggage carried by each people grows day by day.

To deal with it in a healthy way, we really have to detach ourselves from the situation for as long as we need and feel the emotions that come up. The emotions we feel is what created the event and even the relationship. Common emotions include anger because of feeling not getting what one wants, grief due to feeling sacrificing so much for nothing, fear because not knowing what the future will be etc. It’s very important to know we are responsible for everything we feel. We are not responsible for how others treat us because everyone has free will. But we are in total control of how we feel and what actions we take. If what other people do have effect on us, it is beause we are not strong enough internally and we have expectation on others to please us. The expectations we put on others really come from deep-rooted selfishness because we make ourselves the centre of a relationship and we demand others to please us. So it is not surprising that relationships formed based on selfishness create pain for both sides and will not last long. People who are attached to their expectations tend to stay in abusive relationships longer because they are more susceptible to illusions that the other person will become who they want them to be.

Once we are clear about our feelings and where they come from, we are ready to start taking action that will help us grow and free us eventually.

  1. Do not play the blame game: meaning completely own your own emotions, thoughts, and actions. If someone is not loving to you (eg: criticism, ridicule, condemn, manipulate, blame etc) tell them how you feel, and give them a choice to change. If they do not change, leave. You do not have to put up with that.
  2. See what you can change in order to improve the situation: all abuseive relationships are created by more than one person. See what you have done has created such an relationship. Change your attitude, actions and intentions. Communicate with the other person. If he/she is willing to change in the positive direction, you can choose to grow together. If the other person is closed off and not willing to change, leave the situation because the other person is being selfish and controlling and you do not have to be the victim.
  3. Persistence: Roman Empire was not built in one day. Usually abusive realtionships are quite difficult lessons to learn and takes time and effort to change or leave them. You have to be persistent in what you do and how you feel. You need to make new ways of thinking, perceiving, and responding your new habits, replacing the old ones, so that you life keeps going in the desired direction. To achieve that, it takes time, effort and constant practice. Remember: nothing worthwile comes easy.
  4. Celebrate accomplishments: We tend to overlook our needs and under-appreciate ourselves. This is actually one of the reasons why we even get into abusive relationships because we do not love ourselves enough. We tell ourselves it’s okay that life is stressful and frustrating. But in truth, life doesn’t have to be that way. We choose to experience the events we want to experience. No matter how difficult it seems at a particular moment, we always have choices and the right choices always give you hope, peace and freedom. What you choose may take you out of your comfort zone, but it’s good for you and you need to trust your ability to deal with challenges and trust that the universal laws are meant to help your grow and prosper, but you need to take inspired actions and face some challenges first. We also need to understand that challenges/difficulties in life are not meant to be punishment. They are only consequences of what you have done or not done in the past. So the faster you deal with a problem, the less severe consequence it will be.
  5. Start to give more: The purpose of life is to prosper, to grow, be abundant, be confident, be happy, be loving, be generous, be helpful, be compassionate and make your contribution to help others and make the world a better place. The universe will generously return its favour at the right time . The more you give, the more abundant you will be. The more you love, the stronger you will be. The more you smile, the happier you will be. The more you try, the more confident you will be. The more you help, the more successful you will be. The secret to live an abundant, joyful and fulfilling life is to give generously and receive graciously.

Love and light

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Love All of You!

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Real love has no judgement, demand or expectation. Are you willing to let go of your defense and hurt and give love freely? Are you loving or are you trading?

Every experience is an opportunity to learn about love. Everytime we shower others with love, compassion and affection, we not only do the same for ourselves, but also have started a ripple effect that can reach other other side of the world.

Jane Huang

True love or co-dependent relationships?

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I went to watch “The Longest Ride” this week and I think overall it is a pretty well done movie about love and romance. It’s not going to be a movie review but I do feel inspired to write a post about qualities of true love and co-dependent relationships. A lot of people tend to be confused about them because they both can feel very intense when we are in them. In many cases, what we believe to be the qualities of love are actually qualities of co-dependence or just emotional emptiness wanting to be filled. While in other cases, when some people feel guilty for leaving unloving relationships and not fulfilling their obligations imposed by societies, they are actually being most loving to themselves and other people involved.

the longest rideIn the movie, Ruth has always wanted a big family, however her husband Ira cannot impregnate her due to his wound infection. Ruth is devastated that her dream of a big family can never become true. When she decides to leave Ira, instead of getting angry, Ira tells her “I think you should leave. I fell in love with you the first time I saw you and for some reason you chose me. But the way I loved you then is nothing compared to the way I love you now. I love you with everything inside of me and I love you so much that I just want you to be happy even if that happiness doesn’t include me.” 

When you truly love someone, you will feel a strong and genuine desire to be understanding, loving, giving and compassionate no matter what the outcome . You will be so enjoying the process and grateful for the joy you feel by sharing you love with the other person no matter what the outcome is. If you get sad, afraid, frustrated or even angry when the other person does not meet your expectation/demand, it is a strong indication that you do not really love the other person because there are conditions involved and you probably are just obsessed with the idea or image you have about them.

Our expectations are products of our mind and nobody has the obligation to fit in a character created by our beliefs. Instead of getting frustrated when our expectations are not met, the most loving thing to do is to look at the underlying causal emotions that drive our expectations. When we have expectations for people, we start to take them for granted and stop seeing that everything they do is a gift that they choose to give us. Relationships without genuine appreciation will not last long because the quality of our relationships is a direct reflection of how much love we give.

For example, when a woman seeks a partner for financial security, she can get very upset when her partner is out of job or does not bring into family enough money as she expected. This is very damaging to both her partner and the relationship because it really is her own responsibility to support herself financially. Instead of projecting her fear of lack of money at her partner, she can embrace, experience and release her fear. Since our life is really a reflection of how we feel emotionally, after her truly owns, experiences and release the emotions, ironically, she will find her financial situation gets better. Another example is when a man expects his partner to obey and agree with everything he says, he will get angry or even violent when his partner disagrees. In this case, the underlying emotions are need for power and fear of losing control. These are very damaging emotions because they are very demanding and are interfering with another’s freewill. People who have need for power and control are usually very insecured and cannot find real strength until they face and own their fears.true love

All of our expectations come from not being responsible for our fear-based emotions. Instead facing and experiencing them, people tend to project them at other people and try to make them to be responsible for their results in life. Expectations are common signs of co-dependent relationships which are usually formed based on mutual wound.

On the other side of the spectrum, true love relationships are based on desires for understanding, growth, learning and sharing. There is no need or expectation involved. Both parties are so involved with learning and growing that there is so much joy in their life that they do not need the other people to fill their emptiness because there is no emptiness. Their life is overflowed with joy and excitement that everyone they see is an opportunity for them to share their love with. When two people are attracted to each other based on these qualities, they will experience a true love relationship that is loving, freeing and exciting in all ways.

Jane Huang

MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Pray for romance

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God, angels and my spiritual guides, thanks for guiding me, helping me and protecting me along the way. Please help me understand, embrace love more in my life. I am grateful for all the the joy and fun in my life. I am also grateful for the challenges and mistakes I have made in my life because they really help me grow if my heart stays humble and take responsibiilty for the mistakes I made. Please bringing in the right person into my life to form a loving, growing, fun and passionate romantice relationship. Romantic relationships can be both so exciting and challenging because both peoples’ positive and negative emotions are magnified. PLease help me deal with my emotions when things get challenging and let the other person own his/her emotions too. The truth is if I really love the other person, I will not demand anything from him/her and I will only want to love. It doesn’t mean I’ll stay in a relationship that is not beneficial to me, but it does mean I will be compassionate towards the other people and at the same time do what is best for myself. My relationships really reflect a big part of me, whatever the outcome is, I have a hand in creating it. However I can only be reponsible for my thoughts, feelings and actions because I am only half of the equation. Every relationship is a chance to learn about and understand human emotions and love. PLease help me focus on the learning process instead of a specific outcome contructed in my mind, and only when I start to really demonstrate love in my thoughts, feelings and actions, I will attract the right partner for me. Thank you. And so it is.

Jane Huang

MasterSource Spiritual Guidance