Why and how to connect with your feeling and emotions?

It is very important to stay in touch with our body and connect with our emotions at all times so that we always know how we really feel and can take actions accordingly instead of taking on others’ emotions and do something we regret later on. When we are in touch with our true feelings, we are being completely responsible for and owning our feelings and we are not likely to get manipulated by other people. It is when we deny our emotions and feelings, we feel fragile and insecured and can be easily manipulated by other people who want something from us instead of truly want to help us. Aslo when you truly own your emotions, even when the outcome does not turn out as good as you hoped, you will not experience much regret, sadness or hatred etc because you have already done your best and there is no reason to look back. Most of the times when we get angry, we are actually angry at ourselves for not making the right decisions that deep down we knew was right. However, for most people, it is too painful to feel the emotions and admit that we could’ve done things differently that we project our anger and frustration at other people and ask them to change so that we don’t have to face our emotions and mistakes.

This is a very self-centered way of dealing with disagreements, mistakes and obstacles because everyone has free will to do what they choose to do and forcing others to change so that everything fits in our little world is not fair and not loving to others. It does not benefit anybody other than feeding our ego. In situations where people have been unloving to us, the best way is to own our emotions and leave the situation. Most people stay in negative situations too long because they expect others to change but are also afraid of facing the challenges by leaving the situations. Instead of initiating real changes, they choose to blame themselves and other people. It is not loving or beneficial to either party and the consequence is keeping both parties in mental and emotional prisons.freeing

The truth is that the events we attract into our life really reflect who we really are and how loving and truthful we really are. There are a lot of teachings that focus on affirmation. It rarely works permanenly because in one’s mind they might believe something through repetition of affirmation, but emotionally, they may believe something that is completely different. And between emotions and intellect, emotions always win. Our emotional based beliefs are a lot more powerful and deep-rooted than intellectual beliefs. Our actions eventually always reflect how we feel emotionally. It is as a person believes in his heart, so is he/she instead of what he/she believes in his/her mind.

To connect with our feelings and emotions, we need to breathe into our diaphram. It allows us to stay present with our feelings, emotions and intuition and not always stay in our head which actually creates a lot of confusion and rarely solve deep-rooted issues. We have to allow our emotions flow instead of making them stagnant. Frustration, anger, rage are strong indications of suppressed emotions. Holding on to negative emotions robs us from love, health, wealth and most importantly, growth. We also tend to be defensive all the time and miss the real lessons that the universe tries to teach us. When we breathe diaphramatically, we can think, and feel more clearly. We also feel stronger and more aware of not only our bodily sensations, but also stimulations in external envronment. When the emotions come up, allow them to flow out of your body in whatever form they manfest and keep breathing diaphramatically during the process.

Love and peace

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Q&A: What’s the correlation between emotional injury and fear?

Fear is a common emotional injury that most people suffer. Some people like to refer emotional injuries as negative imprints that are imposed by our environment when we are very young and have not developed the consciuous mind to reject limiting and harmful beliefs.

Some emotions are causal emotions and some emotions are capping/blocking emotions. Shame and grief are common causal emotions. Fear, frustration, anger and rage are capping emotions that block people to get in touch with the painful feelings that they suppress. Most people get frustrated or angry because they want to run away from the painful emotions that they refuse to experience and release. But from a person getting sad to angry, it can happen within a fraction of a second and majority of people do not have the habit of observing their own behaviours and emotions swings.

Whenever a person gets angry or afraid, it is a sign that they are runing away the painful emotions that are stored in them instead of owning their emotions and really experiencing them without judgements. For example, a person who is afraid of admiting his/her true feelings may have been ridiculed when he/she shared his/her emotions openly but never allowed him/herself to feel the sorrow inside. A person who is afraid of falling in love may have been rejected or betrayed by the people he/she intensely attracted to or deelply trusted but never embraced and let go of the painful experiences.

Imgine when a child discovers something new and is eager to share it with his/her parents who he/she believes are supposed to love and support him/her. However instead of being encouraged, he/she gets yelled at, dismissed anad ridiculed. As a result the child feels not valued, not supported, not loved, resulting in a lot of grief and sorrow. In a lot of culture, children are not really encouraged to experience their painful emotions and are taught that crying signifies weakness while in reality they are just experiencing and releasing their emotions. It is when people run away from their emotions and suppress them with fear and anger that they become defensive, fragile and less powerful. So as the child grows up, he/she can be very afraid of discovering new things and inventing new ways of doing things on his/her own. He/she may even become jealous and resentful towards others who think out of the box and receive inspirations.

So to truly process in our life, accepting, embracing and releasing the painful emotions is essential. We are not responsible for what happened to us when we were children because they result from others people’s ignorance of how their negative words and actions can cause pain in another. But we are the only people who can release those painful emotions stored in ourselves and can set us free from emotional prisons.

Love and peace

Jane Huang

Q&A: Emotions are a voliate subject, how can one be selective and choose certain emotions to feel and release?

We don‘t use the mind to choose what emotions we want to work with. We simply allow emotions come up and usually the stronger the emotion is, the faster it will jump out.

Take me for an example, I do breathing exercise everyday to allow emotions come up and feel what emotions I have been suppressing. Most people have suppressed their emotions so much that intellectually they think they are one way, but in reality, they are another way. For instance, if a person think he/she is peaceful but get annoyed or frustrated by outside circumstances. Then this person has supressed emotions and the event serves to trigger his/her suppressed emotions. Psychologists call those subconscious emotions or beliefs. Most people project their own feelings and expectations on other people and outside circumstances. When a person close their heart that they become angry or frustrated which are fear based. In most cases, they are afriad of losing control and completely letting go.

Anger and fear are blocking/capping emotions. The real causal emotions are grief and shame that one has denied and suppressed.

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance