The Poem of Life, Love & Growth

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Beneath the density of your grief, lie the sparks of your passion.

Light up your passion and let the inner light guide you to create miracles and colour the world.

Beneath the depth of your searching, stands the evergreen tree of wisdom,

Its roots are so deep that it has been wating for your visit since the beginning of your existence

In the midst of cloud of your loneliness, sits a beautiful and abundant queen

whose joy comes from sharing not needing for others

Beneath all the effort dedicated to achieving inner enlightenment and refusing to be conditioned by society,

lies a half-sleeping lion whose awakening time is about to come.

The awakening threathens the weak while uplift the strong.

Beneath your sorrow and heartbreaks, lies a beautiful rose of love and compassion

that grows and omours everytime you shower others with forgiveness, love, affection and compassion,

while withers in anger, hatred, resentment, and envy.

Beneath your fears, lie the seeds of inexhaustable courage and undefeatable confidence which will grow into you

if you protect them with faith and definite purposes.

Love and light

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

How To Deal With Abusive Relationships

woman huggingThe first step to deal with abusive relationships is admitting you are actually in one. Most people tend to deny they are in one because all relationships take time and effort to create and maintain and we don’t want to believe that the time and evergy that we have spent are going to waste or against us.

Then something might happen to make you alert that the person you are in relatioship (does not have to be romantic relationships, it can be parents, relatives, co-workers, social encounters etc) with actually tend to be a taker, a manipulator, or a user. When situations like this happens, some people critisize the other person for being inconsiderate and be very angry at them while others tend to tell themselves that everything will be fine and wishfully think the other person will change for them. Very few people really look at the the cause of the issue and how the relationship was formed in the first place. However, this is an important step to deal with all relationship problems. We have to really understand what situation we are in and what the next step to take that will bring the best solutions for everyone involved.

Most emotional and physical abusive relationships form when both parties have insecurities, looking for another person to help deal with our problems (or to complete us). Then, we have to ask ourselves, what do we want to experience from this particular relationship? Are we trying to get something from it in order to ease our fears, anxieties or insecurities. Relationships based on co-dependnece will always meet challenges down the road and it will get harder and harder as time goes by because both parties refuse to learn and baggage carried by each people grows day by day.

To deal with it in a healthy way, we really have to detach ourselves from the situation for as long as we need and feel the emotions that come up. The emotions we feel is what created the event and even the relationship. Common emotions include anger because of feeling not getting what one wants, grief due to feeling sacrificing so much for nothing, fear because not knowing what the future will be etc. It’s very important to know we are responsible for everything we feel. We are not responsible for how others treat us because everyone has free will. But we are in total control of how we feel and what actions we take. If what other people do have effect on us, it is beause we are not strong enough internally and we have expectation on others to please us. The expectations we put on others really come from deep-rooted selfishness because we make ourselves the centre of a relationship and we demand others to please us. So it is not surprising that relationships formed based on selfishness create pain for both sides and will not last long. People who are attached to their expectations tend to stay in abusive relationships longer because they are more susceptible to illusions that the other person will become who they want them to be.

Once we are clear about our feelings and where they come from, we are ready to start taking action that will help us grow and free us eventually.

  1. Do not play the blame game: meaning completely own your own emotions, thoughts, and actions. If someone is not loving to you (eg: criticism, ridicule, condemn, manipulate, blame etc) tell them how you feel, and give them a choice to change. If they do not change, leave. You do not have to put up with that.
  2. See what you can change in order to improve the situation: all abuseive relationships are created by more than one person. See what you have done has created such an relationship. Change your attitude, actions and intentions. Communicate with the other person. If he/she is willing to change in the positive direction, you can choose to grow together. If the other person is closed off and not willing to change, leave the situation because the other person is being selfish and controlling and you do not have to be the victim.
  3. Persistence: Roman Empire was not built in one day. Usually abusive realtionships are quite difficult lessons to learn and takes time and effort to change or leave them. You have to be persistent in what you do and how you feel. You need to make new ways of thinking, perceiving, and responding your new habits, replacing the old ones, so that you life keeps going in the desired direction. To achieve that, it takes time, effort and constant practice. Remember: nothing worthwile comes easy.
  4. Celebrate accomplishments: We tend to overlook our needs and under-appreciate ourselves. This is actually one of the reasons why we even get into abusive relationships because we do not love ourselves enough. We tell ourselves it’s okay that life is stressful and frustrating. But in truth, life doesn’t have to be that way. We choose to experience the events we want to experience. No matter how difficult it seems at a particular moment, we always have choices and the right choices always give you hope, peace and freedom. What you choose may take you out of your comfort zone, but it’s good for you and you need to trust your ability to deal with challenges and trust that the universal laws are meant to help your grow and prosper, but you need to take inspired actions and face some challenges first. We also need to understand that challenges/difficulties in life are not meant to be punishment. They are only consequences of what you have done or not done in the past. So the faster you deal with a problem, the less severe consequence it will be.
  5. Start to give more: The purpose of life is to prosper, to grow, be abundant, be confident, be happy, be loving, be generous, be helpful, be compassionate and make your contribution to help others and make the world a better place. The universe will generously return its favour at the right time . The more you give, the more abundant you will be. The more you love, the stronger you will be. The more you smile, the happier you will be. The more you try, the more confident you will be. The more you help, the more successful you will be. The secret to live an abundant, joyful and fulfilling life is to give generously and receive graciously.

Love and light

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Why Are We “Waiting On The World To Change”?

Hands Up for this amazing and truthful song! It really portrays how a lot of people feel about what are happening in the world right now that creates so much frustration, destruction, mistrust and agony.

The power to change what the future world looks like is within every person right now, right where we are. It’s not about what one person can do on day X, it’s about human beings collectively learning to face the truth and coming up with solutions to the problems that have been created by us.

If we give a bit more, share a bit more, consume and waste a lot less, we’ll read a lot less news about poverty and wealth inbalance. In contrarory, all people will have equal rights and opportunities to have access to food, shelters, educational insitutes, and health systems.

If we care a bit more, respect a bit more, judge and discriminate a lot less, we’ll hear a lot fewer stories about people, religions and cultures fighting, despising one another. We will be humble enough to learn from and exchange knowledge with those who are from different cultural or religious background. As a result, we will progress so much faster as human race because of the difference instead of dispite the difference.

Everyone is an important and unique piece to solve the great puzzle/challenge that we are facing now. Even though there is still a lot to overcome economically, politically, religiously, scientifically and spiritually, we should still count and recognize any contribution and progress made in the positive direction and have faith that love, compassion, kindness positivity, and prosperity will always win in the end.

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Dream The Impossible, Achieve The Incredible

The journey of success, joy, abundance starts with you taking the first step to bring light, value, power, and positivity into your life and people around you. It’s true that you can not control others’ reaction and you don’t have to. They may not understand or appreciate what you are doing for yourself and the world at this moment because everyone is on a different level of understanding. It doesn’t mean they are less then you are. It only means you are ahead of them and they will come to understand what life is all about in their own time. Also everyone has free will to decide and choose what they want to believe in. If you feel you need others’ approval to start doing what you desire, then you have to look at where your insecurity comes from because if you are truly strong and confident inside, you will not take offense if others disagree with you. In contrast, you would really listen to what they are trying to say and see if there is a point to it. And usually there is, because everything that universe brings to you is for your improvement and advancement, but it depends your level of understanding to comprehent it and your perception to interpret it .


What’s really important is how you feel about what you do and how you live your life. No one else can have the same experience as you do because they are not you. Even if they want to, it is not possible because everything they see, hear, feel and experience is filtered by their unique perception.

So how do you feel about your life? Do you feel excitement, joy, sense of accomplish, determined, and living your purpose? Or do you feel limited, frustrated or even angry because you are struggling among coming to terms with your past, pleasing other people and finding your own power and purpose? Whatever you are struggling with, feel it, acknowledge it and let it go. Let yourself start a new way of living your life and start to believe the imposible can be accomplished.

Love and light

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

 

 

You Are The Answer To Heal Your Life

How do you feel about your life? Is there some area in your life you feel frustrated about because you do not know how to improve it? Do you always question results and not trusting that the universe will always bring you the nest solution in a particular situation? Have you ever felt you have been neglected, not loved or not being treated fairly? Do you feel you are not worthy enough to pursue what you love, who you want to be and the life that you really want to experience? Have you ever felt you do not deserve the things that truly bring you happiness and joy?


If your answer is yes to any of the questions above, it’s an indication that you have not really opened your heart to allow the universe to show you how much you are loved and you are not being loving to yourself because you put a cap on what you really want to experience. However, do not blame yourself for how you feel or what you know now because what you are experiencing at this moment has nothing to do with what is going to happen in the future if you choose to change your approach to every aspect of your life. A lot of times, the limiting beliefs that paralize our life were not originally created by ourselves, rather they come from your parental influence, grandparents, peers, and media etc. But, there is no power behind blaming yourself or others because it is an indication that you do not want to take responsibility for your life right now. Where in truth all the potentiality and possibility lie in the present moment — here and now. It is how you choose to deal with your error-based or fear-based beliefs and emotions now that determines what will happen next in your life. If you choose to deal with your emotions and release them in a healthy way, your relationships with others, yourself, your work and everything else will improve automatically because everything happening in your life is a reflection of your inner self. However, if you choose to turn away from your emotional injuries and neglect them, they will become darker and more intense until your emotional turmoil becomes too overwhelming and starts to wreck your life, your health and your relationships.

Do not be afraid of your emotions because they are the most accurate depiction of who you really are. No matter how much you try to run away from your emotions, in the end you will always revert back to your true feelings. Do not feel shamed about what you did or what happened to you in the past. It may not be all your fault or not as bad as you think. The truth is you were doing the best you could at that time and life is supposed to be a constant learning process.

You are never responsible for what happened to you. But you do need to look at what emotions and energy in you that have attracted certain events. You are responsible for how you deal with the personal emotional injuries now, how you want to direct your life and taking steps to create your life according to your free will now. Acknowledging what hurt you in the past, why it hurt you, how you feel about it now and how you want to come to peace with the past is a powerful technique to release your emotional injuries. Open your heart. It might be scary and hurt at first, but eventually love and truth will come into your heart, your vibration and heal your whole being.

I would like to share a beautiful but powerful poem with you:

One And Only You

Every single blade of grass,

And every flake of snow —

Is just a wee bit different …

There’s no two alike, you know.

From something small, like grains of sand,

To each gigantic star

All were made with THIS in mind:

To be just what they are!

How foolish then, to imitate —

How useless to pretend!

Since each of us comes from a MIND

Whose ideas never end.

There’ll only be just ONE of ME

To show what I can do —

And you should likewise feel very proud,

There is only ONE of YOU.

That is where it all starts

With you, a wonderful unlimited human being.

Love and light

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSourse Spiritual Guidance

Whatever You Give Attention to Grows

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What’s your approach to life challenges? Do you take responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and emotions or do you project them at other people to make them responsible for the results and the directions of your life? Are you honest about your true thoughts, feelings and emotions without putting yourself down or do you judge yourself for mistakes because it is too hard to facing your emotions? How do you deal with conflicts with people around you? Do you project all the negativity at them or do you ask yourself what you have done has caused the situation and what energy in your has attracted the particular situation?

When facing challenges, difficulties, conflicts and confusion, there are many ways to deal with them and each one will bring you a unique solution. Not sure which one to choose? Try this: close your eyes, breathe into your diaphragm, let go of your thoughts and let your feeling and emotions flow. See yourself being peaceful and grateful for the solutions and let the feeling guide you to take the actions that will bring you the best result. Relax, trust divine guidance and take inspired actions instead of reacting directly from the fight or flight mode or getting into a habit of worrying, debating in your mind, or even resentment. Try it several times and make it your habit of making decisions. You’ll feel much lighter, happier and your life will be a lot more enjoyable.

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Your Heart Holds The Treasure Of Your Life

When we live in a society where there is so much expectations on us, it’s difficult to really relax, tune in and ask ourselves what we really want to experience. Even when we discover what we want, there are too many what-ifs in our mind blocking us to make the decisions that are really needed and we end up doing what we are used to and have been doing for a long time. The consequence of this is that we never get out of our comfort zone. We feel instantly afraid and worried when things don’t go the way we have planned. We block out all the potential challenges so that we can feel secured, but slowly we will lose passion for life, asking ourselves “is this life all about?” where this truth is that our life is our own making. The more you hold on to your security, the less satisfied you’ll feel because deep down you know nothing is certain. While the more you let yourself go and embrace the opportunities coming your way, the more secured you’ll feel because you are getting in tune with the rhythm of life and you have an uncanny understanding of what life is about which result in undefeatable self-confidence and a deep sense of knowingness. The more you know and understand, the less you will be afraid.

The more you dare to let go of all the preconception of who you should be or who you are told to be, the less you are bounded by the rules created in your mind. Start to make small changes everyday, it will build up your momentum which lowers your resistance toward unexpected changes. Start to believe that everything in life happens for you instead of to you, and your attitudes towards life will change dramatically. It’s true that almost every time your attitudes play much more important roles than outside circumstances.

Breathe deeply and feel the pull towards the life you have dreamed of. Start to take actions right now no matter how small you think it is. Every action will start a series of chain reaction. Follow your heart, trust life and let it take it to where it wants you to experience and you will never look at life the same way you did before.

28 Questions to Help You Achieve Your Goals

Think and Grow Rich is one of the books that have helped me grow on my personal, professional and spiritual paths. The following are 28 questions that help you measure strengths, weaknesses,  opportunities, the direction you want to go in life and in what ways you can reach your potential and become more efficient and effective.

  1. Have I attained the goal which I established as my objective for this year? (You should work with a definite yearly objective to be attained as a part of your major life objective).
  2. Have I delivered service of the best possible QUALITY of which I was capable, or could I have improved any part of this service?
  3. Have I delivered service in the greatest possible QUANTITY of which I was capable?
  4. Has the spirit of my conduct been harmonious and cooperative at all times?
  5. Have I permitted the habit of PROCRASTINATION to decrease my efficiency, and if so, to what extent?
  6. Have I improved my PERSONALITY, and if so, in what ways?
  7. Have I been PERSISTENT in following my plans through to completion?
  8. Have I reached DECISIONS PROMPTLY AND DEFINITELY on all occasions?
  9. Have I permitted any one or more of the six basic fears to decrease my efficiency?
  10. Have I been either “over-cautious,” or “under-cautious?”
  11. Has my relationship with my associates in work been pleasant, or unpleasant? If it has been unpleasant, has the fault been partly, or wholly mine?
  12. Have I dissipated any of my energy through lack of CONCENTRATION of effort?
  13. Have I been open-minded and tolerant in connection with all subjects?
  14. In what way have I improved my ability to render service?
  15. Have I been intemperate in any of my habits?
  16. Have I expressed, either openly or secretly, any form of EGOTISM?
  17. Has my conduct toward my associates been such that it has induced them to RESPECT me?
  18. Have my opinions and DECISIONS been based upon guesswork, or accuracy of analysis and THOUGHT?
  19. Have I followed the habit of budgeting my time, my expenses, and my income, and have I been conservative in these budgets?
  20. How much time have I devoted to UNPROFITABLE effort which I might have used to better advantage?
  21. How may I RE-BUDGET my time, and change my habits so I will be more efficient during the coming year?
  22. Have I been guilty of any conduct which was not approved by my conscience?
  23. In what ways have I rendered MORE SERVICE AND BETTER SERVICE than I was paid to render?
  24. Have I been unfair to anyone, and if so, in what way?
  25. If I had been the purchaser of my own services for the year, would I be satisfied with my purchase?
  26. Am I in the right vocation, and if not, why not?
  27. Has the purchaser of my services been satisfied with the service I have rendered, and if not, why not?
  28. What is my present rating on the fundamental principles of success? (Make this rating fairly, and frankly, and have it checked by someone who is courageous enough to do it accurately).