Category: Inner Child healing

How Law of Attraction Really Works

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Awarenss, beliefs, Connecting with emotions, Emotional health, Healing, Inner Child healing, law of attraction, love, Love and Relationships, MInd Body and Spirit Connection, Personal Growth, Romantic relationships, Self-love, spiritualityLeave a comment

In the context of human experience, the law of attraction works on both conscious and subconscious level. What most human are consciously aware of is only about 3%. the rest is unconscious within which some is inherited, some may come from past life, some were picked up when you were very young or when you were in a highly receptive state so information, thoughts and beliefs went into your subconscious mind directly without being examined or filtered by your conscious mind.

There have been a lot of books, programs talking about changing your thoughts in order to change your life. However, you have have noticed that a lot of the times, it may not be as easy as you would like because thoughts come from your belief systems, most of which are unconscious to you until you start to do some serious inner-work. Thoughts that have heavy emotional charge attached to them are more challenging to change causing behavioral patterns difficult to change as well.

Diving a bit deeper, what makes changing your beliefs challenging is that you very likely picked them up when you were very young from your parents or caretakers. When you were young, you had no choice but absorb and pick up everything around you because your brain is not developed yet to perform complex tasks and weave out or reject negative thoughts, beliefs or projections. Then you go on living your life as if you aught to think, feel or behave in a certain way not knowing that there are actually unlimited ways of thinking, perceiving, behaving and living your life. Years of living your life unconsciously only consolidates your subconscious beliefs until when you see the limitation of living your life in a certain way and start to ask deeper questions such as “How can I improve my life experience?” “Why did I behave in a certain way?” “How can I change my response?” etc.

People who are awakened or are in the awakening process will be drawn to self-healing or self-development in order to understand themselves better, to heal parts of themselves that were not loved or damaged, to be their own best friend and biggest ally. When you start to put in the work in the right direction, the universe will respond and help you along by bringing you experiences and miracles better than you have expected. Everything starts with you. If you want to have better relationship with your spouse/partner, you need to take responsibility and start to examine your life first. Are you doing everything you can? Are you giving enough attention to your partener? Are you loving yourself in enough? Do you truly want to stay in the relationship or see a future with your spouse/partner? Whether the answer is yes or no, you need to be honest with yourself and make decisions and take actions that are aligned with your integrity, principles and values. When you do this consistently, either your spouse/partner will be inspired to change with you or the universe will clear the way and bring you someone who has similar intention and is a vibrational match for you.

As you keep unpeeling the onion, start to work on yourself on the soul level, start to say “YES” to your soul purpose and start to walk on your soul path consistently, the universe will bring you someone who can resonate with you on your soul level. Some people call it a soulmate relationship, but in essence, it means to be in a relationship with someone who shares great synergy and chemistry. You understand, love and care about each other deeply, help each other be the best you can and walk on your highest paths individually and collectively. However it doesn’t mean it will always be easy as life will always throw you challenges, but overall it will be a very strong, deep, meaningful, satisfying and often intense relationship.

Love and light,

Jane

Grow with Life Experiences Series – How to deal with narcissistic people including your parents (Part 2)

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Awarenss, Emotional health, Healing, Inner Child healing, Mental health, Personal Growth, Self-healing, spiritualityLeave a comment

It is quite unfortunate if one or both of your parents is/are narcissistic however it doesn’t mean you have to repeat your parents’ patterns. When you were young, you brain is not developed enough to process complex emotions and situations. However as you grow more mature especially into adulthood, you have the ability to identify unhealthy patterns inherited from your parents and the capacity to process and heal them. One good thing about being an adult is that you are able to parent your inner child in ways that your narcissistic parent/parents is/are not able to.

Before diving further into how you can heal from the trauma bonding with your narcissistic parents. It’s important to understand the extent narcissistic parents’ negative outlook, criticism, brainwashing and controlling tactics on their children. According to research, children who are brought up by narcissistic parents tend to experience the following mental health, relationship, career and physical health struggles.

It is very important to establish boundaries with narcissistic parents because we are consciously and unconsciously influenced by the environment around us and there is no benefit to have narcissists around you. If you can, it’s best to establish your living space and build a supportive circle around you. Narcissistic parents tend to think they have ownership over their children and therefore they will not respect your boundaries. You establishing your boundaries will actually anger or trigger them because they can no longer control you. It’s important to know that narcissistic people crave power. When their power over something or someone is being challenged, their true color will come out. That’s why narcissistic parents can be emotionally, physically, psychologically, mentally and/ or verbally abusive when their children rebel their ideas, plans or beliefs.

In the previous post, I have mentioned that narcissistic people have no empathy. This means they will not be able to see things from your perspective. They also have no desire to do so. They have this grandiose and arrogant idea about themselves as if they know everything or whatever they say or think is correct and cannot be challenged. Somehow they think they are above others. Even when you show them facts and try to reason with them, their arrogance will dismiss your ideas and proposals. That’s why arrogant people can also be very ignorant because they never see the point of learning from others or life experiences. In their little mind, they think they already know everything. Therefore arrogant people are also emotionally shallow because it is empathy, compassion, humility, the ability to self-reflect that make a person emotionally rich and deep.

It is important to mention that just because you can pinpoint your narcissistic parents’ toxic traits, it does not mean that you can change them. Narcissistic people do not change on the fundamental level. Even if they change, it will be a very small one instead of a drastic change. Narcissistic people are innately self serving, emotionally selfish, cold, immature and shallow. They may change their actions to make them look better but not because they suddenly develop empathy or there is a big change on the core level.

It is much better to look for support and fulfillment elsewhere such as developing meaningful friendships, leaning a new skills, watching some heart-warming movies, engaging in activities that make you feel happier and more confident, being in nature, meditating etc.

Self-love and self-confidence are essential when dealing with narcissistic parents. Always put yourself first. You don’t have to be the one who is always putting in the effort or be consistent with them. You don’t have to give them more than what they deserve even if they are your parents. Parents are supposed to be emotional, psychologically and physically supportive of their children’s growth. If they do not do their part right, you don’t have to be the one putting in all the effort or mending the relationship. It’s important and beneficial to always invest in reciprocative relationships and break the boundaries that your parents set for you and start living your life for your own good. Although it is easier said than done, and it can take years of practicing self-love to hold strong boundaries again narcissistic parents, the rewards and the inner strength and wisdom you have gained along the way will make everything worthwhile. There is nothing more emotionally rewarding than building a strong and healthy relationship with yourself as all other relationships are reflections of that.

Love and light,

Jane

How to create more abundance in your life!

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Abundance, Goals, Healing, Inner Child healing, law of attraction, love, Love and Relationships, Mental health, Passion, Personal Growth, Releasing negative and painful emotions, Self-healing, self-judgement, Self-love, UncategorizedLeave a comment

Sit in a quite place and breathe in through your nose and breathe out through your mouth until you feel relaxed. Imagine your feet sink deep into the earth and feel the solid nurturing earth energy supporting your whole being .

Place your hands on the centre of your chest and put your attention gently between your hands and the skin of your chest and say “I am my awareness.” If emotions come up, it’s okay. Be with them for a moment. You don’t have to do anything. Be aware of them is enough. They will heal, evolve and expand at the right time.

Now ask to connect with your spiritual guides, archangels, angels or your higher self whoever you connect with usually. If you are new to spirituality, and you are not sure who to connect with, you can always ask to connect with your higher self and your subconscious mind. Spirituality also starts with connecting with yourself first. The deeper you go, the higher you can reach.

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Now say in your mind or out loud:

God,  archangels, angels, seraphim, my higher self, my subconscious mind please help me be aware of my negative beliefs about money. Be aware of what thoughts, memories emotions, images, colors etc. show up. Allow your emotions to flow through you. Pay attention if you have any body sensations. Write them down. When you come back and re-read what you have written down, you’ll see how your thoughts, emotions are trying to communicate with you and you will have better connection with yourself and make better decisions in the future.

Now repeat the same exercise  for financial abundance

Pay attention to what financial abundance really feels to you. Be aware of what thoughts, emotions, images, colors etc show up. Pay attention to your body sensations. Do you feel expansion, warmth, or something else and write them down. 

Financial security and abundance is directly connected with your sense of self-worth. How do you see and feel about yourself? Do you really love, value and accept all part of yourself no matter what? You are the only person who can give you the love, the validation, the support you will ever need. The healing process starts and ends with healing your inner child. When you were a child, you depended on your parents. But when you are an adult, you really have to learn to be the divine mother and divine father that inner child needs. You have to be the force in your life to heal, love and appreciate your inner child in all aspects. When you heal your inner child, you really build a strong foundation in yourself, the 3D world and the spiritual world because you have integrated and harmonized all part of yourself and you will be more in peace with yourself. Your emotions will have higher frequency and your desires will manifest more quickly.

Find a quite place to sit and ask you higher self, your subconscious mind and your guides to show you your sense of self-worth. Pay attention to any thoughts, emotions, images, body sensations that come up and write them down. Pay attention to your breathing and become more aware of our own rhythm.

Now you have just released a lot of suppressed energy and emotions that no longer support you. In order for it to manifest more quickly in your life, you need to do come cleaning and organizing. (You can do this on the next day, if you feel you have a lot emotions to process or a lot of thought and feelings to write down in your journal.) Go through your place and clean out all the things that you no longer need. By doing this, you are generate room for new energy to come in and new events to manifest. You will also feel lighter and less dense. Everything is inter-connected. What you do in our physical world affects your mental, emotional and spiritual experience.

Now go back to your desk and write down as much as possible what you are grateful for. The attitude of gratitude will generate positive energy within you and in turn create positive experience in your life. In truth, you can only experience what you are and everything else is merely a mirror for you. I am sure you have heard of the saying “When you change the way you look at something, it changes.” It is because your out experience is a direct reflection of your inner experiences.

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Now that you have done the heard part, finally you can write your goals, your dreams and what you want to experience in your life. I put this part at last is because I want to you experience your heart first and know the difference between your heart and your mind. Your heart’s desires will always fulfill you. By staying in your heart, you will be less sensitive to other people’s judgment, opinions because love the strongest force and protection in the universe. You don’t need other people’s praise to do what you want to accomplish. You only need love to do what you want to do.

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Love and peace,

Jane Huang

 

 

Keep your energy and vibration high during COVID-19 lockdown

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Acceptance, Awarenss, COVID-19 lockdown, Emotional health, Inner Child healing, Mental health, MInd Body and Spirit Connection, Passion, Personal Growth, Releasing negative and painful emotions, Self-healing, Self-love, spiritualityLeave a comment

During this quarantine period, although it is easy to be influenced by negative news and remain in a state of fearfulness,  it is important to fear will never attract or manifest anything positive. It will only attract and manifest more fear. At this time of uncertainty and turbulence, it is crucial that we keep our energy high and vibrant so that negative forces can’t have any grip on us.

Looking from a different angle, being at home is a perfect time to cultivate high, pure light energy within yourself and really strengthen your light body. I have been working meditate light bodyon healing and strengthening my subtle/ energy body for the past two weeks and have released a lot of emotions and become more sensitive and mindful of the health of my subtle body. It has been amazing. I feel more peaceful, grounded and more connected to my being.

 

To help you connect with your spirituality and stay calm and peaceful inside, I have summarized some tips below:

1. Journal before you go to sleep. Write down your desires, fears, worries, confusions and ask either negatives emotions to be cleared during your dream state or answers and solutions regarding your questions be answered in whatever way that is clear to you. JournalWriting down your thoughts and feelings is a great way to clear yourself and let go of your grip on the situation. For any situation to unfold in a positive way, you must detach and let go and allow it to manifest in the way it is meant to be. When you allow and trust, it will always unfold in a way that is for your highest good and you will understand it sooner or later.  

2. Go to sleep with a peaceful mind and open heart. You can achieve this by saying a prayer, meditating, or listening to a peaceful sleep meditation before sleep. The thoughts and feelings you carry into your sleep have profound influence on your inner state. If you take resentful, hateful, angry thoughts with you in your dreams, you will wake up exhausted, depressed, angry, and unfocused. If you go to sleep with a feeling of gratitude, love and peace, you will wake up with more energy, feeling of joy and expansion. Let go of your grip or your perspective on a situation. If someone did something that upset you, just understand, it’s the way they peaceful sleepare, it doesn’t have anything to do with you. They behave in a certain way that they think is most beneficial which you may or may not agree. Repeat to yourself “I forgive you for not being the person I want you to be.” Because in truth, nobody has the obligation to do what pleases you. If you have met someone who is like you and you resonate with, know that this is a blessing and a gift and be grateful for the gift. The attitude of gratitude bring you more of what you love and appreciate.

3. Upon waking, write down your dreams, pay attention to the feelings, colours, messages, the storylines, etc. Sometimes, you may see animals, ETs, or yourself as a different person. No matter how bizarre your dreams are, write down the details as much as possible. When you go back and read your dreams in a month, 3 months, a year, you will see a pattern how your subconscious mind communicates with you and you will start to remember more and more of your dreams. It’s pretty amazing!

4. If something is bothering you, write them down. Writing down your thoughts can really help you sort through your thoughts and emotions. Sometimes, solutions and understanding of a situation can magically appear while you are writing. Pay attention to how you feel and only anchor on positive, assertive and constructive emotions so that your energy/subtle body stays strong.

5. Observe your thoughts and emotions rather than letting them control and affect you. You are much bigger than your thoughts and emotions which are just some aspects of you and they can change constantly. light bodyObserve your thoughts and emotions and let them go. Don’t try to hold on to any of them whether you perceive them as good or bad. Be more fluid, and things in your life will unfold more quickly. That’s why so many people find the famous quote from Bruce Lee “Be like water.” inspiring.

6. Use our time and energy mindfully and choose who you spend your time with consciously. Create an environment for yourself that is nurturing and supportive of who you are and what you want to become. Don’t be afraid to say no. If people don’t respect your choices, they don’t deserve to be in your life. You don’t want to give your precious time and energy to somebody who doesn’t respect you. Do not give up part of yourself just to keep the peace or avoid conflict. Your vibration and the quality of your inner state are your highest priority.

7. Other people are your mirrors. What you like or dislike in a person is a reflection of yourself on some level. Universe gives us challenging situations to help us grow. Challenging situations are perfect opportunities to look within to heal our wounded self and release what is no long needed for our highest good. Everything evolves. Allow yourself evolve naturally and organic without putting external restrictions on yourself. Then you can really witness and be amazed by the grand plan your soul and the divine has for you.  and .

8. Have fun! Laughter is the best medicine. You can heal a lot through laughter and allow your inner child to come out and play. inner childThis is when you are able to reintegrate parts of yourself that have split off during stress times. Healing doesn’t always have to be heavy and challenging. You can heal during deep sleep, watching a movie, playing sports, music, artistic and creative endeavors etc. It important to connect and love your inner child because it is essential in the process of manifestation and your connect to spirit. Once you are able to love and accept all parts of yourself and love your inner child, you will have so much spiritual power, strength, insights and understanding. You will see and understand people and situations so much more clearly that nothing will bother you anymore and you will know exactly what is the right thing to do in every situation.

Love and light,

Jane Huang