The Importance of Speaking Truthfully

The ability to speak truthfully from your heart and mind in all interactions is a necessary skill to have in order to gain loyal, trustworthy friends, build strong bonds with your loved ones and be an influential figure in your career not in an egotistical way but because you have something genuine and progressive to share.

Speak truthfullyWhatever comes from the heart originates in love and whatever originates in love can never fade away or be destroyed. People may forget what you have said to them, but they will never forget how you make them feel. However, it doesn’t mean you always need to tell people what they want to hear without checking in what you want to say really resonates with you. Otherwise you will be a people pleaser and give people not with best intention excuses not to treat you with respect.

Be genuine, be in your power, speak truthfully and respectfully. Your love and respect for yourself and others can potentially awaken the love and respect in others. If whoever you talk to responds well to you, then you know it’s a relationship that is worth developing. If not, then you know they are not the right person to connect to, at least not for now and not on that specific subject matter. Also based on how they respond to you, you can have a glimpse of their character and quality as person. I always remember what Warren Buffett said: “You cannot make a good deal with a bad person.” Have strong boundaries but also be flexible. Everyone has the potential to change and evolve. Everyone has the potentiality to be great and extraordianry. However without making definite decisions and taking actions, the potentiality can never be realized. Pay attention to people’s actions and not just the words as well as how they treat everybody they encounter.

It is also very important to point out that people tend to mirror each other, especially in  close relationships. What you see in others often is a reflection of yourself. This can be tricky when you are not aware of these hidden parts of yourself and can be confusing and even destructive if you project them onto others. For example, if you made a mistake in your work and your manager was upset. It doesn’t necessarily mean he/she is upset with you or there is soSpeak truthfully 2mething wrong with you. But if you feel hurt, then it usually comes from an unhealed wounded that is triggered by the manager. So in this case, it is best to seek help from a professional to heal the wound within yourself first before communicating with the manager about the issue.

On the other hand, the manager has to be aware of their own projections and not misuse or abuse their power and positions. I love the following two quotes from Dale Carnigie’s book “How to win friends & influence people”:

  1. “A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men.”
  2. “Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”

There’s a chapter from the book “The Four Agreement” titled “Be impeccable with your words.

The following is my take on it:

Before you can be impeccable with your words, it’s important to look into your heart and ask yourself what your true intention is. Your words intensify and consolidate your intention while your intention is the driving force behind your words. Before you communicate with someone about an important issue, negotiate a deal or confess your feelings, it’s essential to always be clear about your intentions, your values, what sits well with you and what doesn’t, so that you are prepared, grounded and present. You will know clearly what to do, wcommunicationhere you can compromise and where you cannot.

The best kind of communication is always two-way open communication. Let go of your judgments and what you think you know about a person or a situation. Allow your understanding of them to support your discernment but soften your judgement so that you see him/her and situation for what they really are instead of looking for what you want to see. In this way, you allow both parties to come at a mutual understanding and build a good foundation for trust and growth.

 

Love and Light,

Jane Huang

Prayer for Your Success

Dear God, divine father, mother, the almighty creator, I have come to reconnect with you through my mind, heart and soul. Please lift any doubt I have in my mind and reconnect with the inner wisdom and compass that I have inside. Please lift and clear my energy, and receive divine guidance accurately.

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I have this concern: (Describe your concern) and I need you to help me overcome this. Please strengthen the my connection with you, perceive this situation accurately, be clear about what option to choose and be assertive about the choice I make.

I know that the universe/God always have my back as long as my intentions are benevolent and are tuned into the highest interest for all people involved. Please help me stay in present and not obsessively worry about what will happen in the future. Because future is created and determined by what I am feeling, thinking and doing now. Please grant me the confidence, love, compassion, determination, wisdom and persistence to put in my 100% effort and take action now.

.Thank you God, my divine mother and father for looking after me.

Thank you angels for walking beside me and protecting me each step along the way.

Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Love and light

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

28 Questions to Help You Achieve Your Goals

Think and Grow Rich is one of the books that have helped me grow on my personal, professional and spiritual paths. The following are 28 questions that help you measure strengths, weaknesses,  opportunities, the direction you want to go in life and in what ways you can reach your potential and become more efficient and effective.

  1. Have I attained the goal which I established as my objective for this year? (You should work with a definite yearly objective to be attained as a part of your major life objective).
  2. Have I delivered service of the best possible QUALITY of which I was capable, or could I have improved any part of this service?
  3. Have I delivered service in the greatest possible QUANTITY of which I was capable?
  4. Has the spirit of my conduct been harmonious and cooperative at all times?
  5. Have I permitted the habit of PROCRASTINATION to decrease my efficiency, and if so, to what extent?
  6. Have I improved my PERSONALITY, and if so, in what ways?
  7. Have I been PERSISTENT in following my plans through to completion?
  8. Have I reached DECISIONS PROMPTLY AND DEFINITELY on all occasions?
  9. Have I permitted any one or more of the six basic fears to decrease my efficiency?
  10. Have I been either “over-cautious,” or “under-cautious?”
  11. Has my relationship with my associates in work been pleasant, or unpleasant? If it has been unpleasant, has the fault been partly, or wholly mine?
  12. Have I dissipated any of my energy through lack of CONCENTRATION of effort?
  13. Have I been open-minded and tolerant in connection with all subjects?
  14. In what way have I improved my ability to render service?
  15. Have I been intemperate in any of my habits?
  16. Have I expressed, either openly or secretly, any form of EGOTISM?
  17. Has my conduct toward my associates been such that it has induced them to RESPECT me?
  18. Have my opinions and DECISIONS been based upon guesswork, or accuracy of analysis and THOUGHT?
  19. Have I followed the habit of budgeting my time, my expenses, and my income, and have I been conservative in these budgets?
  20. How much time have I devoted to UNPROFITABLE effort which I might have used to better advantage?
  21. How may I RE-BUDGET my time, and change my habits so I will be more efficient during the coming year?
  22. Have I been guilty of any conduct which was not approved by my conscience?
  23. In what ways have I rendered MORE SERVICE AND BETTER SERVICE than I was paid to render?
  24. Have I been unfair to anyone, and if so, in what way?
  25. If I had been the purchaser of my own services for the year, would I be satisfied with my purchase?
  26. Am I in the right vocation, and if not, why not?
  27. Has the purchaser of my services been satisfied with the service I have rendered, and if not, why not?
  28. What is my present rating on the fundamental principles of success? (Make this rating fairly, and frankly, and have it checked by someone who is courageous enough to do it accurately).

Prayer for Career

God, angels and my spiritual guides, please help me let go of the judgement I have imposed on myself. Please help me let go of the need to please other people and the attachment to what is within my comfort zone. Please help me open my heart to allow people and experiences come into my heart so that I can understand what my passions, talents and abilities are and start to consciously develop them. Please help me stay peaceful, truthful and loving inside so that no outside turmoil can distract me from moving forward with my life purpose. Please guide me to take care of my finance so that my life can progress balanced both in the physical and spiritual realm. I choose to give all my fear, grief, guilt and other negative emotions to God and angels for healing and transformation and trust that God is in charge of all the details of my life and has a divine plan for me and for everyone else involved. Thank you God, angels and my spiritual guides. Thank you. And so it is.

Jane Huang

MasterSource spiritual guidance