Category: Personal Growth

Powerful Subliminal Video for Manifesting a Fulfilling & Well Paid Career/Job

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I have created the subliminal videos to help others manifest financial abundance by doing what they are passionate about. If you are not sure what you are passionate about, ask yourself, what would you do if money is not the issue.

Most people don’t get to do what they love right from the start. Some people receive support from friends and family member while others don’t. Some people are interested in fields that are more mature that have more opportunities but also more competition, while others are interested in fields that have not been really explored by that many people which presents less competition but requires a great amount of planning, research, and networking etc. However it’s not uncommon for people to go through several transitions to find what they truly like because in many cases you don’t know if you are truly interested in something until you actually try it.

This subliminal video I have created helps you let go of negative emotions, beliefs and thinking patterns, so that you move forward in your career with more clarity and confidence and without burdens from the past. I have incorporated both Ho’oponopono healing and positive affirmative messages in the audio which helps you heal on a deep level as well as align you to your highest path so that you can manifest what you desire with less obstacles. However, it does not mean you can sit around doing nothing and money or opportunities can automatically appear after you listen to the audio. In most cases, you will have to take consistent inspired actions to turn your ideas and dreams into reality.

You may start to feel urges to do something that you have thought about but talked yourself out of it. You may start to become clearer about what you need to do or what really makes you happy because the subliminal messages in the audio has tremendous healing and clearing effect. They not only help clear limiting and negative beliefs but also heal you from past negative experiences or memories. This audio will also assistant you in changing your inner dialogue from negative to positive, from fear based to love based. It will help instill more confidence in yourself and your ability to overcome challenges, turn your ideas and dreams into reality. It helps raise your vibration and change your life from inside out in profound and positive ways.

Headphones are recommended for the best user experience.

Love & Light,

Jane

How Law of Attraction Really Works

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Awarenss, beliefs, Connecting with emotions, Emotional health, Healing, Inner Child healing, law of attraction, love, Love and Relationships, MInd Body and Spirit Connection, Personal Growth, Romantic relationships, Self-love, spiritualityLeave a comment

In the context of human experience, the law of attraction works on both conscious and subconscious level. What most human are consciously aware of is only about 3%. the rest is unconscious within which some is inherited, some may come from past life, some were picked up when you were very young or when you were in a highly receptive state so information, thoughts and beliefs went into your subconscious mind directly without being examined or filtered by your conscious mind.

There have been a lot of books, programs talking about changing your thoughts in order to change your life. However, you have have noticed that a lot of the times, it may not be as easy as you would like because thoughts come from your belief systems, most of which are unconscious to you until you start to do some serious inner-work. Thoughts that have heavy emotional charge attached to them are more challenging to change causing behavioral patterns difficult to change as well.

Diving a bit deeper, what makes changing your beliefs challenging is that you very likely picked them up when you were very young from your parents or caretakers. When you were young, you had no choice but absorb and pick up everything around you because your brain is not developed yet to perform complex tasks and weave out or reject negative thoughts, beliefs or projections. Then you go on living your life as if you aught to think, feel or behave in a certain way not knowing that there are actually unlimited ways of thinking, perceiving, behaving and living your life. Years of living your life unconsciously only consolidates your subconscious beliefs until when you see the limitation of living your life in a certain way and start to ask deeper questions such as “How can I improve my life experience?” “Why did I behave in a certain way?” “How can I change my response?” etc.

People who are awakened or are in the awakening process will be drawn to self-healing or self-development in order to understand themselves better, to heal parts of themselves that were not loved or damaged, to be their own best friend and biggest ally. When you start to put in the work in the right direction, the universe will respond and help you along by bringing you experiences and miracles better than you have expected. Everything starts with you. If you want to have better relationship with your spouse/partner, you need to take responsibility and start to examine your life first. Are you doing everything you can? Are you giving enough attention to your partener? Are you loving yourself in enough? Do you truly want to stay in the relationship or see a future with your spouse/partner? Whether the answer is yes or no, you need to be honest with yourself and make decisions and take actions that are aligned with your integrity, principles and values. When you do this consistently, either your spouse/partner will be inspired to change with you or the universe will clear the way and bring you someone who has similar intention and is a vibrational match for you.

As you keep unpeeling the onion, start to work on yourself on the soul level, start to say “YES” to your soul purpose and start to walk on your soul path consistently, the universe will bring you someone who can resonate with you on your soul level. Some people call it a soulmate relationship, but in essence, it means to be in a relationship with someone who shares great synergy and chemistry. You understand, love and care about each other deeply, help each other be the best you can and walk on your highest paths individually and collectively. However it doesn’t mean it will always be easy as life will always throw you challenges, but overall it will be a very strong, deep, meaningful, satisfying and often intense relationship.

Love and light,

Jane

Grow with Life Experiences Series – How to deal with narcissistic people including your parents (Part 2)

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Awarenss, Emotional health, Healing, Inner Child healing, Mental health, Personal Growth, Self-healing, spiritualityLeave a comment

It is quite unfortunate if one or both of your parents is/are narcissistic however it doesn’t mean you have to repeat your parents’ patterns. When you were young, you brain is not developed enough to process complex emotions and situations. However as you grow more mature especially into adulthood, you have the ability to identify unhealthy patterns inherited from your parents and the capacity to process and heal them. One good thing about being an adult is that you are able to parent your inner child in ways that your narcissistic parent/parents is/are not able to.

Before diving further into how you can heal from the trauma bonding with your narcissistic parents. It’s important to understand the extent narcissistic parents’ negative outlook, criticism, brainwashing and controlling tactics on their children. According to research, children who are brought up by narcissistic parents tend to experience the following mental health, relationship, career and physical health struggles.

It is very important to establish boundaries with narcissistic parents because we are consciously and unconsciously influenced by the environment around us and there is no benefit to have narcissists around you. If you can, it’s best to establish your living space and build a supportive circle around you. Narcissistic parents tend to think they have ownership over their children and therefore they will not respect your boundaries. You establishing your boundaries will actually anger or trigger them because they can no longer control you. It’s important to know that narcissistic people crave power. When their power over something or someone is being challenged, their true color will come out. That’s why narcissistic parents can be emotionally, physically, psychologically, mentally and/ or verbally abusive when their children rebel their ideas, plans or beliefs.

In the previous post, I have mentioned that narcissistic people have no empathy. This means they will not be able to see things from your perspective. They also have no desire to do so. They have this grandiose and arrogant idea about themselves as if they know everything or whatever they say or think is correct and cannot be challenged. Somehow they think they are above others. Even when you show them facts and try to reason with them, their arrogance will dismiss your ideas and proposals. That’s why arrogant people can also be very ignorant because they never see the point of learning from others or life experiences. In their little mind, they think they already know everything. Therefore arrogant people are also emotionally shallow because it is empathy, compassion, humility, the ability to self-reflect that make a person emotionally rich and deep.

It is important to mention that just because you can pinpoint your narcissistic parents’ toxic traits, it does not mean that you can change them. Narcissistic people do not change on the fundamental level. Even if they change, it will be a very small one instead of a drastic change. Narcissistic people are innately self serving, emotionally selfish, cold, immature and shallow. They may change their actions to make them look better but not because they suddenly develop empathy or there is a big change on the core level.

It is much better to look for support and fulfillment elsewhere such as developing meaningful friendships, leaning a new skills, watching some heart-warming movies, engaging in activities that make you feel happier and more confident, being in nature, meditating etc.

Self-love and self-confidence are essential when dealing with narcissistic parents. Always put yourself first. You don’t have to be the one who is always putting in the effort or be consistent with them. You don’t have to give them more than what they deserve even if they are your parents. Parents are supposed to be emotional, psychologically and physically supportive of their children’s growth. If they do not do their part right, you don’t have to be the one putting in all the effort or mending the relationship. It’s important and beneficial to always invest in reciprocative relationships and break the boundaries that your parents set for you and start living your life for your own good. Although it is easier said than done, and it can take years of practicing self-love to hold strong boundaries again narcissistic parents, the rewards and the inner strength and wisdom you have gained along the way will make everything worthwhile. There is nothing more emotionally rewarding than building a strong and healthy relationship with yourself as all other relationships are reflections of that.

Love and light,

Jane

Grow with Life Experiences Series – How to deal with narcissistic people including your parents (Part 1)

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Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (5th ed.; DSM–5; American Psychiatric Association, 2013) defines a narcissistic person as someone who has a pervasive pattern of grandiosity (in fantasy or behavior), an excessive need for admiration, and lack of empathy, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts.

This is indicated by five (or more) of the following:

  1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance (e.g., exaggerates achievements and talents, expects to be recognized as superior without commensurate achievements). 
  2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love. 
  3. Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions). 
  4. Requires excessive admiration. 
  5. Has a sense of entitlement (i.e., unreasonable expectations of especially favorable treatment or automatic compliance with his or her expectations). 
  6. Lacks empathy: is unwilling to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others. 
  7. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her. 
  8. Shows arrogant, haughty behaviors or attitudes.

Warren Buffett said: You can’t make a good deal with a bad person. This is something you need to always remember when dealing with narcissist people including your parents or guardians. However it is not easy to identify a narcissistic person when you first meet them. You may even think they are very charming, agreeable, or even thoughtful and considerate because they are very good at masking themselves to be the person you want them to be so that they can get closer to you and eventually get what they want from you and/ or manipulate you into doing something for them which have been in their mind from the very start.

So it is smart not to be too open towards people when you first meet them because you don’t really know them yet. Not everybody is what they appear to be. It’s like the saying “not all that glitters is gold”. A lot of people unfortunately live from a quite superficial level. Even though it sounds cliché, but it is true that people can only meet you as deeply as they meet themselves. Narcissistic people lack emotional depth and maturity, they don’t have the capacity or desire to understand or experience life from a deeper and more authentic level. To them, they only think about how to get what they want and don’t really care about how their decisions, actions affect other people. So you can also say that narcissist people do not have empathy meaning they can’t sympathize with other people’s pain and therefore they can be physically and/or emotionally cruel. That’s why a lot of narcissistic people are verbally, emotionally and/ or physically abusive. However, these traits may not be apparent until you get to know someone well. So it’s smart and important to be observant and a bit reserved when you meet new people. Those who are respectful of others will respect your boundaries and will be open to you when you are also ready to be open because they are empathetic and do not want to take anything from you. Narcissistic people do not respect other people’s boundaries and when you say no to them, it may even enrage them as if you don’t have a right to choose or say no when you are dealing with them.

Narcissistic people may grow up in families that that are highly traumatic or their parents coddled them when they grew up and never teach them to be responsible for their actions or wrongdoings. That’s why in many male dominant cultures, there are a high percentage of men being narcissistic than women.

However, the level of narcissism is also largely influenced by a person’s own nature. An empath who grew up in a dysfunctional family, was raised by narcissistic parents and is highly traumatized, when given the chance, will still choose the path of honesty, love, compassion, learning to be self-responsible and making sound and good decisions in life. It’s like the story a wounded healer – someone who was deeply wounded, but never gives up on love, goodness and trust in themselves and others because that’s who they truly are. Everyday they choose to open themselves to light, learn to reflect on and learn from their past experiences no matter how difficult it is on some days. Eventually, they heal themselves deeply and profoundly, and therefore, they have and exuberate deep love and understanding for all beings in the universe.

You can also say it’s like a warrior’s journey – a warrior may encounter all types of challenges, monsters or demons, but they never surrender or lose their fighting spirit. They focus on learning the skills and learning from their past experiences and eventually earn the power to outsmart and slay all monsters and demons. Their victory does not depend on external circumstances but the inner light, wisdom, skills and strength that they have learned a long the way.

Empaths who are healed are extremely strong, aware and intelligent because they can perceive people, things and situations deeply and truthfully. They will be able to see and understand things that others cannot. It will be very difficult to fool them because they have learned to listen and understand their intuition and differentiate the voice from their heart from the noise of their mind. The synergy of many deep parts of their psyche make them very intelligent, wise, wholesome, loving, compassionate and strong.

Empaths are on the opposite spectrum of narcissists. They are very sensitive to other people’s emotions and well-being and therefore a lot of them may choose careers such a counselling, spiritual healers, artists or psychics.

When you notice someone who is a narcissist or have narcissistic traits that you feel uncomfortable or that you can’t trust them, it’s important that you establish your boundaries in a smart way. Be nice and polite but do not invest or engage anymore than that. The goodness narcissists share is very superficial and you don’t have to give people more than they deserve especially with narcissists because they are very selfish, manipulative and don’t care about anything else as long as they get what they want. It’s very important to stay cautious around narcissistic people if you have to be around them. If you can, it’s best to distance yourself from them and those who don’t contribute or bring positivity to your life.

Love and light,

Jane

Grow with Life Experiences Series

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June 03, 2022

Your beliefs, thoughts, and emotions create your reality because they not only attract circumstances that reflect them but also affect your response and reaction to various situations, opportunities and challenges in life.

So by changing your beliefs, thoughts and emotions, you can change your life. By healing your past trauma, release negative thoughts and beliefs, you are able to heal yourself, release past experiences, beliefs or doctrines that have been instilled in your mind but are no longer supportive of what you are going. Then the plateau you experience in life will be lifted, and you will be able to see and experience what is beyond your current beliefs allow you to. You will be able to experience more joy, freedom, and cultivate deeper connection with yourself and you will be able to perceive and understand people, things and situations on a deeper level and in a more truthful manner because you are not looking through filters anymore, you are seeing people, things and situations for what truly they are.

However, it has its pros and cons:

pros:

You will feel that life has more meaning and life has more colour.

You feel deeper emotions, have deeper thoughts and start to look for and attract people who are more aligned with who you are and where you are going.

You will feel a sense of community and support when you are surrounded by like-minded and like-hearted people.

You will feel you life is taking off or is accelerating.

You feel excited about life and have more tolerance for the challenges that life throws your way

You will feel happier because you are more in touch with your true being. In another word, you start to love yourself unconditionally and forgive yourself easily.

You will have more compassion for yourself and others

You will start to develop inner strength and wisdom which go hand in hand

cons:

Spiritual growth may come with some growing pains. You may start to realize who are not contributing positivity in your life and you will want to distancing yourself from them. This can be an uncomfortable phase because people tend to be drawn to what is familiar. During this time, it’s very important to surround yourself with people who truly care about you and who understand what you are going through. You need support to go through the cleansing phase. Of course, you can do this on your own, but it is easier when there is support, love and understanding around you. Besides that, you can also learn from those who have gone through similar situations as you do. Human beings are social beings, through communication and interaction with others, we gain new information, ideas, inspiration etc. that help us become smarter, stronger, kinder and learn to see things from different perspectives.

Everyday, start to do things that excite you and scare you at the same time as long as they don’t put you in any kind of danger because the goal is to open yourself to a world and experiences that are beyond your current comfort zone and not to traumatize yourself. Even in just in one year, you’ll start to see a huge amount of changes and growth!

Love and Light,

Jane

How to create more abundance in your life!

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Abundance, Goals, Healing, Inner Child healing, law of attraction, love, Love and Relationships, Mental health, Passion, Personal Growth, Releasing negative and painful emotions, Self-healing, self-judgement, Self-love, UncategorizedLeave a comment

Sit in a quite place and breathe in through your nose and breathe out through your mouth until you feel relaxed. Imagine your feet sink deep into the earth and feel the solid nurturing earth energy supporting your whole being .

Place your hands on the centre of your chest and put your attention gently between your hands and the skin of your chest and say “I am my awareness.” If emotions come up, it’s okay. Be with them for a moment. You don’t have to do anything. Be aware of them is enough. They will heal, evolve and expand at the right time.

Now ask to connect with your spiritual guides, archangels, angels or your higher self whoever you connect with usually. If you are new to spirituality, and you are not sure who to connect with, you can always ask to connect with your higher self and your subconscious mind. Spirituality also starts with connecting with yourself first. The deeper you go, the higher you can reach.

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Now say in your mind or out loud:

God,  archangels, angels, seraphim, my higher self, my subconscious mind please help me be aware of my negative beliefs about money. Be aware of what thoughts, memories emotions, images, colors etc. show up. Allow your emotions to flow through you. Pay attention if you have any body sensations. Write them down. When you come back and re-read what you have written down, you’ll see how your thoughts, emotions are trying to communicate with you and you will have better connection with yourself and make better decisions in the future.

Now repeat the same exercise  for financial abundance

Pay attention to what financial abundance really feels to you. Be aware of what thoughts, emotions, images, colors etc show up. Pay attention to your body sensations. Do you feel expansion, warmth, or something else and write them down. 

Financial security and abundance is directly connected with your sense of self-worth. How do you see and feel about yourself? Do you really love, value and accept all part of yourself no matter what? You are the only person who can give you the love, the validation, the support you will ever need. The healing process starts and ends with healing your inner child. When you were a child, you depended on your parents. But when you are an adult, you really have to learn to be the divine mother and divine father that inner child needs. You have to be the force in your life to heal, love and appreciate your inner child in all aspects. When you heal your inner child, you really build a strong foundation in yourself, the 3D world and the spiritual world because you have integrated and harmonized all part of yourself and you will be more in peace with yourself. Your emotions will have higher frequency and your desires will manifest more quickly.

Find a quite place to sit and ask you higher self, your subconscious mind and your guides to show you your sense of self-worth. Pay attention to any thoughts, emotions, images, body sensations that come up and write them down. Pay attention to your breathing and become more aware of our own rhythm.

Now you have just released a lot of suppressed energy and emotions that no longer support you. In order for it to manifest more quickly in your life, you need to do come cleaning and organizing. (You can do this on the next day, if you feel you have a lot emotions to process or a lot of thought and feelings to write down in your journal.) Go through your place and clean out all the things that you no longer need. By doing this, you are generate room for new energy to come in and new events to manifest. You will also feel lighter and less dense. Everything is inter-connected. What you do in our physical world affects your mental, emotional and spiritual experience.

Now go back to your desk and write down as much as possible what you are grateful for. The attitude of gratitude will generate positive energy within you and in turn create positive experience in your life. In truth, you can only experience what you are and everything else is merely a mirror for you. I am sure you have heard of the saying “When you change the way you look at something, it changes.” It is because your out experience is a direct reflection of your inner experiences.

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Now that you have done the heard part, finally you can write your goals, your dreams and what you want to experience in your life. I put this part at last is because I want to you experience your heart first and know the difference between your heart and your mind. Your heart’s desires will always fulfill you. By staying in your heart, you will be less sensitive to other people’s judgment, opinions because love the strongest force and protection in the universe. You don’t need other people’s praise to do what you want to accomplish. You only need love to do what you want to do.

Love

Love and peace,

Jane Huang

 

 

Keep your energy and vibration high during COVID-19 lockdown

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Acceptance, Awarenss, COVID-19 lockdown, Emotional health, Inner Child healing, Mental health, MInd Body and Spirit Connection, Passion, Personal Growth, Releasing negative and painful emotions, Self-healing, Self-love, spiritualityLeave a comment

During this quarantine period, although it is easy to be influenced by negative news and remain in a state of fearfulness,  it is important to fear will never attract or manifest anything positive. It will only attract and manifest more fear. At this time of uncertainty and turbulence, it is crucial that we keep our energy high and vibrant so that negative forces can’t have any grip on us.

Looking from a different angle, being at home is a perfect time to cultivate high, pure light energy within yourself and really strengthen your light body. I have been working meditate light bodyon healing and strengthening my subtle/ energy body for the past two weeks and have released a lot of emotions and become more sensitive and mindful of the health of my subtle body. It has been amazing. I feel more peaceful, grounded and more connected to my being.

 

To help you connect with your spirituality and stay calm and peaceful inside, I have summarized some tips below:

1. Journal before you go to sleep. Write down your desires, fears, worries, confusions and ask either negatives emotions to be cleared during your dream state or answers and solutions regarding your questions be answered in whatever way that is clear to you. JournalWriting down your thoughts and feelings is a great way to clear yourself and let go of your grip on the situation. For any situation to unfold in a positive way, you must detach and let go and allow it to manifest in the way it is meant to be. When you allow and trust, it will always unfold in a way that is for your highest good and you will understand it sooner or later.  

2. Go to sleep with a peaceful mind and open heart. You can achieve this by saying a prayer, meditating, or listening to a peaceful sleep meditation before sleep. The thoughts and feelings you carry into your sleep have profound influence on your inner state. If you take resentful, hateful, angry thoughts with you in your dreams, you will wake up exhausted, depressed, angry, and unfocused. If you go to sleep with a feeling of gratitude, love and peace, you will wake up with more energy, feeling of joy and expansion. Let go of your grip or your perspective on a situation. If someone did something that upset you, just understand, it’s the way they peaceful sleepare, it doesn’t have anything to do with you. They behave in a certain way that they think is most beneficial which you may or may not agree. Repeat to yourself “I forgive you for not being the person I want you to be.” Because in truth, nobody has the obligation to do what pleases you. If you have met someone who is like you and you resonate with, know that this is a blessing and a gift and be grateful for the gift. The attitude of gratitude bring you more of what you love and appreciate.

3. Upon waking, write down your dreams, pay attention to the feelings, colours, messages, the storylines, etc. Sometimes, you may see animals, ETs, or yourself as a different person. No matter how bizarre your dreams are, write down the details as much as possible. When you go back and read your dreams in a month, 3 months, a year, you will see a pattern how your subconscious mind communicates with you and you will start to remember more and more of your dreams. It’s pretty amazing!

4. If something is bothering you, write them down. Writing down your thoughts can really help you sort through your thoughts and emotions. Sometimes, solutions and understanding of a situation can magically appear while you are writing. Pay attention to how you feel and only anchor on positive, assertive and constructive emotions so that your energy/subtle body stays strong.

5. Observe your thoughts and emotions rather than letting them control and affect you. You are much bigger than your thoughts and emotions which are just some aspects of you and they can change constantly. light bodyObserve your thoughts and emotions and let them go. Don’t try to hold on to any of them whether you perceive them as good or bad. Be more fluid, and things in your life will unfold more quickly. That’s why so many people find the famous quote from Bruce Lee “Be like water.” inspiring.

6. Use our time and energy mindfully and choose who you spend your time with consciously. Create an environment for yourself that is nurturing and supportive of who you are and what you want to become. Don’t be afraid to say no. If people don’t respect your choices, they don’t deserve to be in your life. You don’t want to give your precious time and energy to somebody who doesn’t respect you. Do not give up part of yourself just to keep the peace or avoid conflict. Your vibration and the quality of your inner state are your highest priority.

7. Other people are your mirrors. What you like or dislike in a person is a reflection of yourself on some level. Universe gives us challenging situations to help us grow. Challenging situations are perfect opportunities to look within to heal our wounded self and release what is no long needed for our highest good. Everything evolves. Allow yourself evolve naturally and organic without putting external restrictions on yourself. Then you can really witness and be amazed by the grand plan your soul and the divine has for you.  and .

8. Have fun! Laughter is the best medicine. You can heal a lot through laughter and allow your inner child to come out and play. inner childThis is when you are able to reintegrate parts of yourself that have split off during stress times. Healing doesn’t always have to be heavy and challenging. You can heal during deep sleep, watching a movie, playing sports, music, artistic and creative endeavors etc. It important to connect and love your inner child because it is essential in the process of manifestation and your connect to spirit. Once you are able to love and accept all parts of yourself and love your inner child, you will have so much spiritual power, strength, insights and understanding. You will see and understand people and situations so much more clearly that nothing will bother you anymore and you will know exactly what is the right thing to do in every situation.

Love and light,

Jane Huang

The Importance of Speaking Truthfully

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn anger, Awarenss, beliefs, Career, Communication, fear, Goals, Healing, Leadership, Personal GrowthLeave a comment

The ability to speak truthfully from your heart and mind in all interactions is a necessary skill to have in order to gain loyal, trustworthy friends, build strong bonds with your loved ones and be an influential figure in your career not in an egotistical way but because you have something genuine and progressive to share.

Speak truthfullyWhatever comes from the heart originates in love and whatever originates in love can never fade away or be destroyed. People may forget what you have said to them, but they will never forget how you make them feel. However, it doesn’t mean you always need to tell people what they want to hear without checking in what you want to say really resonates with you. Otherwise you will be a people pleaser and give people not with best intention excuses not to treat you with respect.

Be genuine, be in your power, speak truthfully and respectfully. Your love and respect for yourself and others can potentially awaken the love and respect in others. If whoever you talk to responds well to you, then you know it’s a relationship that is worth developing. If not, then you know they are not the right person to connect to, at least not for now and not on that specific subject matter. Also based on how they respond to you, you can have a glimpse of their character and quality as person. I always remember what Warren Buffett said: “You cannot make a good deal with a bad person.” Have strong boundaries but also be flexible. Everyone has the potential to change and evolve. Everyone has the potentiality to be great and extraordianry. However without making definite decisions and taking actions, the potentiality can never be realized. Pay attention to people’s actions and not just the words as well as how they treat everybody they encounter.

It is also very important to point out that people tend to mirror each other, especially in  close relationships. What you see in others often is a reflection of yourself. This can be tricky when you are not aware of these hidden parts of yourself and can be confusing and even destructive if you project them onto others. For example, if you made a mistake in your work and your manager was upset. It doesn’t necessarily mean he/she is upset with you or there is soSpeak truthfully 2mething wrong with you. But if you feel hurt, then it usually comes from an unhealed wounded that is triggered by the manager. So in this case, it is best to seek help from a professional to heal the wound within yourself first before communicating with the manager about the issue.

On the other hand, the manager has to be aware of their own projections and not misuse or abuse their power and positions. I love the following two quotes from Dale Carnigie’s book “How to win friends & influence people”:

  1. “A great man shows his greatness by the way he treats little men.”
  2. “Any fool can criticize, complain, and condemn—and most fools do. But it takes character and self-control to be understanding and forgiving.”

There’s a chapter from the book “The Four Agreement” titled “Be impeccable with your words.

The following is my take on it:

Before you can be impeccable with your words, it’s important to look into your heart and ask yourself what your true intention is. Your words intensify and consolidate your intention while your intention is the driving force behind your words. Before you communicate with someone about an important issue, negotiate a deal or confess your feelings, it’s essential to always be clear about your intentions, your values, what sits well with you and what doesn’t, so that you are prepared, grounded and present. You will know clearly what to do, wcommunicationhere you can compromise and where you cannot.

The best kind of communication is always two-way open communication. Let go of your judgments and what you think you know about a person or a situation. Allow your understanding of them to support your discernment but soften your judgement so that you see him/her and situation for what they really are instead of looking for what you want to see. In this way, you allow both parties to come at a mutual understanding and build a good foundation for trust and growth.

 

Love and Light,

Jane Huang

Lunar Eclipse on July 27 2018

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Acceptance, Awarenss, Connecting with emotions, Healing, Personal Growth, Self-healing, spiritualityLeave a comment

The lunar eclipse taking place on July 27 is deeply emotional because lunar is about the Image result for lunar eclipse 2018moon which has to do with your feelings, emotions, intuition, dreams, unconscious memories, things that hiding in the shadow that you are not aware of in the day light. You may start to have more vivid dreams than usual days before and after the lunar eclipse. For people who are sensitive to energy, you may start to feel the shift in you a couple of weeks before it and the effect may last 30 to 90 days to motivate you to make tangibles changes in your life to anchor new ways of beings into your system.

During this period you may become aware of some unhealthy or unbalanced patterns in your work relationships or personal relationImage result for carl jung quotesships. You may want to disconnect with certain people or say no to certain pattern or treatment that you cannot tolerate anymore. Or the process can be completely internal as well, you may just want to change certain habits or a way of being or doing things because they are no longer in alignment with how you want to be and where you want to go in life. It’s beneficial to remember that the universe only takes away what’s no longer working. Even though the changes can make you feel vulnerable, empty or a sense of loss, in your heart you know what is for your highest good. Tune into that higher perspective and truth and trust that whatever you need will be given to you when you are ready. 

It’s normal to feel sad, anxious and vulnerable in times of big changes. Grieve if you need to. Take a kick and boxing class if it helps you to release tension. Don’t try to push away you feelings and pretend they are not there. By acknowledging and accepting everything that you are experiencing  right now is part of the process, you allow true transformations to take place. Then solutions, new possibilities, and better circumstances can come into your life. Life will only give you the same type of challenges Image result for carl jung quotesif you have not learned the lesson. When one situation is not dealt with properly, the next situation you find yourself in tend to be more intense. It’s not meant to be a punishment. It’s just universe’s way to get your attention to look within and figure out what needs to be changed and what is here to keep.

All the strength and wisdom you need to overcome life challenges are inherently within you. So rest assured that all will be okay and be gentle and compassionate with yourself. Whenever you find yourself say I should have done this or that, stop, breathe and say to yourself of course I did that. Of course I feel that way. Of course I said that. These of course allow all part of you to heal and integrate. In truth, you and everyone did what they could at best at that time and in that circumstance. So there is really nothing to criticize. Let go and give yourself the unconditional love that you crave and feel the support that the universe has for you. Let go of  the judgments or rigid ways on thinking about yourself or others.  Relax and try not to be forceful or take risks with things at this time. Instead surrender and allow the divine to present you better circumstances where everything can be resolved peacefully.

Love and light

Jane Huang

If you are going through challenging times…

On By Divine Inspiration CoachingIn Awarenss, beliefs, Connecting with emotions, fear, Goals, Healing, MInd Body and Spirit Connection, Personal Growth, Self-healing, spiritualityLeave a comment

If you think you are stuck in challenging circumstances right now and there seems to be no way out and you don’t know what to do, take a deep breath and try to be connected with your breath, be centered in your heart and let go of all thoughts for a moment. Deep breath in and out and pay attention to all the sensations in your body. Image result for surrenderTry this for 10 to 20 minutes. Then as you observe your mind and hold the intention in your heart that no matter what happened, there is always a way out or around. Hold sincere and humble intentions for miracles to manifest themselves.

No matter how bad your think the problems are, there are always at least one solution whether you are aware or not. No matter how big the mistakes you have made, Divine love and grace forgives you instantly. And you need to drop the ego or the critical mind and be completely honest and humble about your feelings. Then the mind can be open to be aligned with divine ideas.

If you think you are at plateau in some areas of your life, trust there is always room to grow. There is no limit to spirit. Although for divine ideas to be grounded in your system and to manifest into something tangible,  it may take time and effort, they are great opportunities to learn important lessons such as faith, surrender, trust, flexibility and patience. The more challenging the circumstance, the more important for your life purpose and the greater the lessons. Trust that the divine really only gives you what you can handle. So if you are facing seemingly impossible challenges now, focus on what lessons you are supposed to learn here. What qualities you need to develop to overcome the challenges. Once you get clear mentally and emotionally, action come much easier and desired circumstances can be manifested magically.

For example, in order to run a business well, you may have to learn about building healthy boundaries, trusting yourself and the divine, nurturing your dreams and desires, taking inspired actions, be open to others suggestions and always stay true to what is important and what feels right to you, and taking inspired actions consistently.

To manifest a healthy relationship or to be with the man or woman of your dream, you have to learn about self-love aImage result for learning growingnd self-appreciation, patience, respecting others’ free will, letting go and realizing that you have always been whole, being responsible for your own feelings and emotions, staying true to yourself without denying yourself just because you love someone and taking loving actions no matter how challenging you think it may be and allowing your true self to be seen and not be afraid to be vulnerable.

Whatever the challenges are, don’t run away from them. Face them squarely and walk through them. Have faith that whatever you need will be given at the right time at the right place and you just need to stay open. So it’s a great experience to build trust and connection with the divine and realize that with the divine/God, anything is possible. 

In life, everything is a reflection of yourself.  If you feel life becomes unbearable and all you could do is to bottle down all of your feelings, push them aside and pretend they are not there. Then life challenges will nudge you to be more self-loving and bring your attention to your shadow side which needs healing and nurturing. At this time, it’ll be best to seek professional help instead of attempting to deal with stress, traumas and breakdowns alone. There is nothing weak about asking for help. It actually shows great strengths such as vulnerability and trust and humility. Besides that, we can learn so much by working with others and see things from different perspectives because really it’s all about perspectives.

Further more, it’s very important that you do whatever is necessary to make sure you have a loving and supportive immediate environment.Image result for self love Human being are social beings and you become the people that you spend most time with. So pay attention to how, where and with whom you spend your time, money and energy. It’s not about cutting people out of your life. It’s about being responsible for  your physical, mental, emotional and spiritual health and being loving to yourself. Make sure that when you do something, it is because you choose to do it rather than you think you have to do it.

Lastly, don’t be so afraid of life challenges. Divine wouldn’t give you the challenges you are not able to overcome. So rejoice that the divine entrusts you to overcome them. Try to look at external unfavorable circumstances as gifts to help you heal the shadow side of yourself and get clear about what you want in your life. Keep your eyes on the prize and focus on what truly matters. It’s much more rewarding to be an outlier, be on your true path and do what you truly love than going along withImage result for inner outer world the crowd and being hollow inside.

Life is really about learning to connect the inner realm and the outer world and making your heart-based desires your reality. Mistakes and struggles are necessary part of the journey, they teach you so much more about life and yourself. As Jim Rohn said: Don’t wish for less problems, wish for more skills. Don’t wish for less challenges, wish for more wisdom. All relationships and mistakes can be healed and corrected as long as you keep the faith, be open to the wisdom they bring to you and take inspired actions that lift your conscience.

Love and light,

Jane Huang