You are loved!

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Do you ever doubt if you are good are good enough, attractive enough, smart enough? Are you afraid to pursue your dream because you are afraid to be shot down? Are you hesitant about leaving negative or even abusive relationships? Are you afraid to speak the truth and let others know how you really feel?

Just remember you are loved and cared for by the universe. If you believe in your heart, it’s the right thing to do. DO IT! You do not have to plan everything out at first, but it’s important to consistently take actions that pull you closer to your goals and the life you truly desire. You may be judged, ridiculed, or even abandoned by your friends or family who do not know your true value and worth. But it is crucial that you never give up on yourself, your dream and your beliefs.

It’s the climb that is mostly challenging and yet most rewarding.

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Let go of your resistance to the challenges in your life, embrace them with an open heart! Everything happens in your life is a reflection of your beliefs, desires, emotions, passions, and longings etc. When you feel scared, nervous, frustrated, hurt or angry, step back, breathe deeply into your diaphram and feel the underlying emotions triggered by the events. The more you surrender and let go of your resistance, the faster you can release the suppressed emotions and the faster the divine answers can come to you.

Jane Huang

MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

True love or co-dependent relationships?

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I went to watch “The Longest Ride” this week and I think overall it is a pretty well done movie about love and romance. It’s not going to be a movie review but I do feel inspired to write a post about qualities of true love and co-dependent relationships. A lot of people tend to be confused about them because they both can feel very intense when we are in them. In many cases, what we believe to be the qualities of love are actually qualities of co-dependence or just emotional emptiness wanting to be filled. While in other cases, when some people feel guilty for leaving unloving relationships and not fulfilling their obligations imposed by societies, they are actually being most loving to themselves and other people involved.

the longest rideIn the movie, Ruth has always wanted a big family, however her husband Ira cannot impregnate her due to his wound infection. Ruth is devastated that her dream of a big family can never become true. When she decides to leave Ira, instead of getting angry, Ira tells her “I think you should leave. I fell in love with you the first time I saw you and for some reason you chose me. But the way I loved you then is nothing compared to the way I love you now. I love you with everything inside of me and I love you so much that I just want you to be happy even if that happiness doesn’t include me.” 

When you truly love someone, you will feel a strong and genuine desire to be understanding, loving, giving and compassionate no matter what the outcome . You will be so enjoying the process and grateful for the joy you feel by sharing you love with the other person no matter what the outcome is. If you get sad, afraid, frustrated or even angry when the other person does not meet your expectation/demand, it is a strong indication that you do not really love the other person because there are conditions involved and you probably are just obsessed with the idea or image you have about them.

Our expectations are products of our mind and nobody has the obligation to fit in a character created by our beliefs. Instead of getting frustrated when our expectations are not met, the most loving thing to do is to look at the underlying causal emotions that drive our expectations. When we have expectations for people, we start to take them for granted and stop seeing that everything they do is a gift that they choose to give us. Relationships without genuine appreciation will not last long because the quality of our relationships is a direct reflection of how much love we give.

For example, when a woman seeks a partner for financial security, she can get very upset when her partner is out of job or does not bring into family enough money as she expected. This is very damaging to both her partner and the relationship because it really is her own responsibility to support herself financially. Instead of projecting her fear of lack of money at her partner, she can embrace, experience and release her fear. Since our life is really a reflection of how we feel emotionally, after her truly owns, experiences and release the emotions, ironically, she will find her financial situation gets better. Another example is when a man expects his partner to obey and agree with everything he says, he will get angry or even violent when his partner disagrees. In this case, the underlying emotions are need for power and fear of losing control. These are very damaging emotions because they are very demanding and are interfering with another’s freewill. People who have need for power and control are usually very insecured and cannot find real strength until they face and own their fears.true love

All of our expectations come from not being responsible for our fear-based emotions. Instead facing and experiencing them, people tend to project them at other people and try to make them to be responsible for their results in life. Expectations are common signs of co-dependent relationships which are usually formed based on mutual wound.

On the other side of the spectrum, true love relationships are based on desires for understanding, growth, learning and sharing. There is no need or expectation involved. Both parties are so involved with learning and growing that there is so much joy in their life that they do not need the other people to fill their emptiness because there is no emptiness. Their life is overflowed with joy and excitement that everyone they see is an opportunity for them to share their love with. When two people are attracted to each other based on these qualities, they will experience a true love relationship that is loving, freeing and exciting in all ways.

Jane Huang

MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Why and how to connect with your feeling and emotions?

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It is very important to stay in touch with our body and connect with our emotions at all times so that we always know how we really feel and can take actions accordingly instead of taking on others’ emotions and do something we regret later on. When we are in touch with our true feelings, we are being completely responsible for and owning our feelings and we are not likely to get manipulated by other people. It is when we deny our emotions and feelings, we feel fragile and insecured and can be easily manipulated by other people who want something from us instead of truly want to help us. Aslo when you truly own your emotions, even when the outcome does not turn out as good as you hoped, you will not experience much regret, sadness or hatred etc because you have already done your best and there is no reason to look back. Most of the times when we get angry, we are actually angry at ourselves for not making the right decisions that deep down we knew was right. However, for most people, it is too painful to feel the emotions and admit that we could’ve done things differently that we project our anger and frustration at other people and ask them to change so that we don’t have to face our emotions and mistakes.

This is a very self-centered way of dealing with disagreements, mistakes and obstacles because everyone has free will to do what they choose to do and forcing others to change so that everything fits in our little world is not fair and not loving to others. It does not benefit anybody other than feeding our ego. In situations where people have been unloving to us, the best way is to own our emotions and leave the situation. Most people stay in negative situations too long because they expect others to change but are also afraid of facing the challenges by leaving the situations. Instead of initiating real changes, they choose to blame themselves and other people. It is not loving or beneficial to either party and the consequence is keeping both parties in mental and emotional prisons.freeing

The truth is that the events we attract into our life really reflect who we really are and how loving and truthful we really are. There are a lot of teachings that focus on affirmation. It rarely works permanenly because in one’s mind they might believe something through repetition of affirmation, but emotionally, they may believe something that is completely different. And between emotions and intellect, emotions always win. Our emotional based beliefs are a lot more powerful and deep-rooted than intellectual beliefs. Our actions eventually always reflect how we feel emotionally. It is as a person believes in his heart, so is he/she instead of what he/she believes in his/her mind.

To connect with our feelings and emotions, we need to breathe into our diaphram. It allows us to stay present with our feelings, emotions and intuition and not always stay in our head which actually creates a lot of confusion and rarely solve deep-rooted issues. We have to allow our emotions flow instead of making them stagnant. Frustration, anger, rage are strong indications of suppressed emotions. Holding on to negative emotions robs us from love, health, wealth and most importantly, growth. We also tend to be defensive all the time and miss the real lessons that the universe tries to teach us. When we breathe diaphramatically, we can think, and feel more clearly. We also feel stronger and more aware of not only our bodily sensations, but also stimulations in external envronment. When the emotions come up, allow them to flow out of your body in whatever form they manfest and keep breathing diaphramatically during the process.

Love and peace

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Q&A: What’s the correlation between emotional injury and fear?

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Fear is a common emotional injury that most people suffer. Some people like to refer emotional injuries as negative imprints that are imposed by our environment when we are very young and have not developed the consciuous mind to reject limiting and harmful beliefs.

Some emotions are causal emotions and some emotions are capping/blocking emotions. Shame and grief are common causal emotions. Fear, frustration, anger and rage are capping emotions that block people to get in touch with the painful feelings that they suppress. Most people get frustrated or angry because they want to run away from the painful emotions that they refuse to experience and release. But from a person getting sad to angry, it can happen within a fraction of a second and majority of people do not have the habit of observing their own behaviours and emotions swings.

Whenever a person gets angry or afraid, it is a sign that they are runing away the painful emotions that are stored in them instead of owning their emotions and really experiencing them without judgements. For example, a person who is afraid of admiting his/her true feelings may have been ridiculed when he/she shared his/her emotions openly but never allowed him/herself to feel the sorrow inside. A person who is afraid of falling in love may have been rejected or betrayed by the people he/she intensely attracted to or deelply trusted but never embraced and let go of the painful experiences.

Imgine when a child discovers something new and is eager to share it with his/her parents who he/she believes are supposed to love and support him/her. However instead of being encouraged, he/she gets yelled at, dismissed anad ridiculed. As a result the child feels not valued, not supported, not loved, resulting in a lot of grief and sorrow. In a lot of culture, children are not really encouraged to experience their painful emotions and are taught that crying signifies weakness while in reality they are just experiencing and releasing their emotions. It is when people run away from their emotions and suppress them with fear and anger that they become defensive, fragile and less powerful. So as the child grows up, he/she can be very afraid of discovering new things and inventing new ways of doing things on his/her own. He/she may even become jealous and resentful towards others who think out of the box and receive inspirations.

So to truly process in our life, accepting, embracing and releasing the painful emotions is essential. We are not responsible for what happened to us when we were children because they result from others people’s ignorance of how their negative words and actions can cause pain in another. But we are the only people who can release those painful emotions stored in ourselves and can set us free from emotional prisons.

Love and peace

Jane Huang

Q&A: Can science and spirituality agree and prove each other?

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I think science is a great way to get to prove spirituality and find out the truth about everything. Quantum Physicist Albert Eisterin once said “Science without religion is lame. Religion without science is blind.” Scientists without following their inspirations and challenging current scientific findings will not achieve any breakthrough in our technology, lifestyle etc.

However, spirituality without the back of science can lead people to believe in things what are not true and can be very dangerous, and there have been examples where some religious groups manipulate people’s grief, fear and anger to achieve their own desire for power and control.

But we also need to remember that science very much relect our current level of collective consciousness as well. For example, 400 years ago, people believed that the Sun revolved around the Earth and it was accepted as truth until later some scientists challenged the idea and found more proof that it is the Earth that revolves the Sun. Quantum physics also proves the Oberver Effect which states that the intention of the observer affects the result of the experiments, which coincides with spiritual teachings that it is our perception and intention that create our reality.

Jane

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Q&A: Why do you think spirituality is not taught more in school?

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I think part of the reason a lot of people shy away from spirituality and deep self reflection is because most people choose instant gratification than real growth and clarity. Especially in western society, most poeple’s lives reflect an addictive nature and feel the constant need to fill their life with something – texting, TV, internet, magazines (reading other people’s life to suppress the feeling that their own life may be boring and pointless), fast food, junk food (using food to suppress anxieties, fear, or grief), use alcohol or drugs to relax (because there is deep anxiety and restlessness within). Technology can benefit our life greatly and can be great tools to search for and receive advanced knowledge if we follow our desires to grow rather than using them to suppress and escape.

The other reason that we don’t really teach spirituality at school is because it challenges a lot of the current beliefs. For example, it is true that we can heal ourselves through diaphramatic breathing, mediation, emotional healing and herbal treatment. If people were taught this, a lot of the pharmaceutical companies will go out of business. If you pay attention to drug’s effects, you’ll realize they don’t really heal people, they only manage symptoms. That’s why most drugs have side effects because they create imbalances in the body that is not natural. The pharmaceutical industry is one of the most lucrative industries in the world along with alcohol and arms industries. All of them have been abused to make money for people who seek excessive wealth, power and control. People tend to use drugs rather than natural healing because of the societal conditioning that makes people judge their own feelings and emotions and look for external means to escape the emotions, which is very detrimental because every time we deny our feelings and emotions, we deny ourselves.

Jane Huang

Q&A: As a person ages, would it make them harder to release their suppressed emotions?

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I mentioned age is a factor because most people suppressed their emotions most of their life due to societal conditioning. We internalize those judgements such as crying means we are weak, by getting angry with people, we feel powerful and can get what we want etc. That’s why for most people, as they age, they become more fearful, frustrated and cynical. These can reflect on their physical appearance as well. Our physical appearances partly reflect our emotional state. For example, radiant eyes reflect a person’s clarity and hopefulness. Gloomy eyes reflects pessimism, fear, grief or hopelessness.

After a person started their spiritual journey, their chronological age becomes less a factor because their mentality and beliefs have changed and start to perceive everything as a reflection of part of themselves. As person progresses more on the spiritual path, they actually become more childlike, humourous, fun to be around and less afraid of others’ judgements. Some people who are very advanced spiritually can actually reverse aging as they appear younger and people around them can see or sense a glowing radiance around them.

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Q&A: Emotions are a voliate subject, how can one be selective and choose certain emotions to feel and release?

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We don‘t use the mind to choose what emotions we want to work with. We simply allow emotions come up and usually the stronger the emotion is, the faster it will jump out.

Take me for an example, I do breathing exercise everyday to allow emotions come up and feel what emotions I have been suppressing. Most people have suppressed their emotions so much that intellectually they think they are one way, but in reality, they are another way. For instance, if a person think he/she is peaceful but get annoyed or frustrated by outside circumstances. Then this person has supressed emotions and the event serves to trigger his/her suppressed emotions. Psychologists call those subconscious emotions or beliefs. Most people project their own feelings and expectations on other people and outside circumstances. When a person close their heart that they become angry or frustrated which are fear based. In most cases, they are afriad of losing control and completely letting go.

Anger and fear are blocking/capping emotions. The real causal emotions are grief and shame that one has denied and suppressed.

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance

Q&A: What range of periods would you agree would take an average person to acquire a high level of awareness?

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How fast a person progress is a subjective thing. It depends on how eager they would like to progress, how willing they allow themselves to really face, experience and release their eomtional injuries. I have met people who have progressed relatively fast. Every year, their life are becoming better, more joyful and have more freedom. I have also met people who are struggling with face and experiencing their emotions and not taking responsibility for their thoughts, feelings and actions. After 3 to 5 years, they still create similar results. But usually the younger a person is (less emotional baggages) and the less emotional closed a person is, the faster he/she progresses. Or maybe I should say a person who is younger at heart, more emotionally open, and  braver to accept life challenges tends to progress faster.