It is very important to stay in touch with our body and connect with our emotions at all times so that we always know how we really feel and can take actions accordingly instead of taking on others’ emotions and do something we regret later on. When we are in touch with our true feelings, we are being completely responsible for and owning our feelings and we are not likely to get manipulated by other people. It is when we deny our emotions and feelings, we feel fragile and insecured and can be easily manipulated by other people who want something from us instead of truly want to help us. Aslo when you truly own your emotions, even when the outcome does not turn out as good as you hoped, you will not experience much regret, sadness or hatred etc because you have already done your best and there is no reason to look back. Most of the times when we get angry, we are actually angry at ourselves for not making the right decisions that deep down we knew was right. However, for most people, it is too painful to feel the emotions and admit that we could’ve done things differently that we project our anger and frustration at other people and ask them to change so that we don’t have to face our emotions and mistakes.

This is a very self-centered way of dealing with disagreements, mistakes and obstacles because everyone has free will to do what they choose to do and forcing others to change so that everything fits in our little world is not fair and not loving to others. It does not benefit anybody other than feeding our ego. In situations where people have been unloving to us, the best way is to own our emotions and leave the situation. Most people stay in negative situations too long because they expect others to change but are also afraid of facing the challenges by leaving the situations. Instead of initiating real changes, they choose to blame themselves and other people. It is not loving or beneficial to either party and the consequence is keeping both parties in mental and emotional prisons.

The truth is that the events we attract into our life really reflect who we really are and how loving and truthful we really are. There are a lot of teachings that focus on affirmation. It rarely works permanenly because in one’s mind they might believe something through repetition of affirmation, but emotionally, they may believe something that is completely different. And between emotions and intellect, emotions always win. Our emotional based beliefs are a lot more powerful and deep-rooted than intellectual beliefs. Our actions eventually always reflect how we feel emotionally. It is as a person believes in his heart, so is he/she instead of what he/she believes in his/her mind.

To connect with our feelings and emotions, we need to breathe into our diaphram. It allows us to stay present with our feelings, emotions and intuition and not always stay in our head which actually creates a lot of confusion and rarely solve deep-rooted issues. We have to allow our emotions flow instead of making them stagnant. Frustration, anger, rage are strong indications of suppressed emotions. Holding on to negative emotions robs us from love, health, wealth and most importantly, growth. We also tend to be defensive all the time and miss the real lessons that the universe tries to teach us. When we breathe diaphramatically, we can think, and feel more clearly. We also feel stronger and more aware of not only our bodily sensations, but also stimulations in external envronment. When the emotions come up, allow them to flow out of your body in whatever form they manfest and keep breathing diaphramatically during the process.

Love and peace

Jane Huang

Founder of MasterSource Spiritual Guidance